cupofsaki

Gold Stars

2007-01-23T20:02:00.000-08:00

Hi,

Whew...2006 was an interesting year for me to say the least. Let’s just say I am GLAD that it is over! Talk about drama – some self-inflicted and some stuff that just came out of nowhere. I was like, “What the hizzy is this all about?” I’m sure you’ve been there at some point in life.

But that’s not why I’m writing tonight. I’m writing tonight to tell you the BIGGEST mistake I’ve made every single year for the past five years of my life, and I have a feeling that I am not alone. That mistake is this: At the end of the year, I do some sort of assessment of my life which I have found to be a worthy exercise. However, what typically happens is that I go into the year with a specific personal goal or desire in mind, and when it doesn’t happen then my final conclusion is that the whole year was a complete disaster. In actuality it wasn’t!

A few weeks ago, it finally hit me! I was comparing how closely my current state was to my desired state. When the two didn’t align, I would say, “Dang Gina. I missed it again.” I would get so frustrated. Why? I only looked at “performance-based activities” because usually these activities tell us how well we are doing in life. And, I’m not just speaking from a career perspective. For me, it could be anything - serving in ministry, interactions with family and friends, handling my finances, dealing with temptation, loving my enemies, studying my Word, praying for others, having enough faith for healing just to name a few. The more victories I had over these things, the better off I was doing. Right? Wrong.

What was happening was that I was reducing my life (which is intended to be lived in abundance) to a bunch of “gold stars” just like I did in the first-grade. And, that’s not cute at 31. Let me take you back. Remember, when you did something good, you got a gold star. When you did something bad, you got one taken away. I remember being so proud of the fact that I always had a gazillion gold stars. I looked at that poster so many times throughout a day, hoping that Shelly Smith would never catch me and that my teacher would think I was the best thing since Google. And, boy if I lost one...I was devastated! It made all the other stars that were still lined up so beautifully by my name seem worthless. This was madness, and 20 something years later, I was still at it.

Sometimes self-reflecting (which should be rewarding to us spiritually, emotionally and physically) really turns into self-bashing that does more harm than good. As a result of focusing on “things,” I find myself going into the new year wanting to do to either, (a) Fix all the stuff I screwed up last last year so I could get more gold stars. Or, (b) Avoid making the same stupid mistakes I did last year so none of the stars I had would be taken down. Either way, my victory depended on my own decisions and actions. Too often, I have lost sight of the fact, because of Christ I’m at least on the board in the first place. And being on the board is better than not being on the board at all. That is great news!

****Newsflash****
Success in life is so much more than accomplishments and failures. Success is being content (effective) in whatever state we are in.

Now, I am ambitious, and by no means am I advocating doing absolutely nothing while believing God for something. But, I am tired of playing “Holy Ghost, Jr. (as Dr. Joyce Meyer would say), expecting God to bless (or deliver) me the way I want to blessed (or delivered) when I want to be blessed (or delivered). God could’ve delivered Jesus and not let Him go to the cross (like Jesus asked in the garden). But, Jesus didn’t let it affect who he was. He quickly said, “Not my will but yours be done.” At the same time, God could’ve blessed Jesus by setting up His holy shop right in the middle of Jerusalem and calling it a day. But, he didn’t. Jesus didn’t dwell on it either. He just walked it out (get it?) by doing His father’s business.

God isn’t our first-grade teacher who sits on the throne all day adding and taking away our gold stars. In fact, “We are saved by grace, and not by works.” We are not failures because things fail. We are not successes because things succeed. We are who God says we are. That’s it.

This year I am committed to resisting the temptation to magnify setbacks and victories - allowing them to change my entire perspective of who God says I am. Instead I am going to magnify Him. I am believing that every day is a new day to write a beautiful new page of my life. I am resting in the joy I had when I first received Christ as my savior. My purpose manifests everyday that I wake up. I am not going to stress over the “show stopper” blessing. If you are believing God for something (a husband, restoration of a relationship, healing, children, financial breakthrough, a business), “be still and know that He is God” and that “the plans of the diligent surely lead to plenty.”

Have a great year!

Saki

Check this out...

2006-10-09T21:44:00.000-07:00

Fat Greedy..May he rest in peace

2006-10-09T21:02:00.000-07:00

For those who started with me, do you remember Fat Greedy? Well, I haven't seen him in a while. Like, an entire year. BUT I did see his little sidekick last night. So, I think Fat Greedy must have died. That's really sad to me. I mean, I didn't like the cat, but I didn't wish any harm to him. I do miss him lounging around the neighborhood. Just not on the roof of my car.

I hope you all have a great week! Find something today OR tomorrow to laugh about. I tried to do a cartwheel the other week (just for fun) and about broke my neck. Now THAT was a funny sight!!!! I thought I still had some tumbling skills left over from my youth.

Guess not!
Kidd

In case you missed it...

2006-10-03T21:03:00.000-07:00

My friend told me that he saw this on Montel. There's an interesting documentary out about racism in America. A movie looks like it might be on the way. I'll keep you guys posted.

http://www.montelshow.com/show/?showID=4974

I miss Whitney...

2006-09-25T21:10:00.000-07:00

I was listening to the radio driving home and The Bodyguard song came on. As I was driving, I was beginning to think, "Wow! This is a shame. We have truly lost, in my opinion, the most beautiful voice ever." Whitney could blow!! She was in a class of her own. No one has been able to sing like her. I am praying for her because she needs to make a come back for real.

Kidd Grown

Gas prices...

2006-09-17T22:08:00.000-07:00

I cannot, absolutely cannot stand it when I think I've found a really good gas price and fill up my tank. Then, I drive about 5 more miles and find some gas for 5-20 cents less. For some reason, this is irritating. More irritating than a fly buzzing around you while you're trying to eat.

I mean, am I the only one who is amazed at how price sensitive I am to gas prices. I mean, I really trip over 5 cents. I vote that we shold be able to lock in on a fixed-rate gas price (if you prepay) for up to 6 months.

Kidd

I love Superman!

2006-07-02T13:12:00.000-07:00

This movie was so good!!! I almost cried when I thought Superman was going to die. But seriously, these superheros will have you believing that they are real. I was amazed at how much this Superman resembled Christopher Reeves. Anyway, cool movie. Go see it. You won't be disappointed.

Finally…I Got a Lunch Box

2006-06-01T06:07:00.000-07:00

God is so funny! I’ll bet He just looks at us some times and smiles. This past week, he blessed me in the most humorous ways ever! I thought that I’d share it with you in case you’re wondering. “Excuse me, but where’s my blessing?”

Now if you recall, I told you a story in a posting last year about how I always wanted a lunch box as a kid. Because I was bused to the predominately white school, I naturally wanted to fit in – that meant having a lunchbox (thermos included) with a character on it (i.e. Star Wars, Barbie, Strawberry Shortcake, etc.). I don’t know what it was about a lunchbox, but really, really, really wanted one.

Well, guess what? Last week, I finally got a lunchbox! I was so thrilled! I know you think I’m crazy, but seriously. Now, I’m not thrilled because I actually “still” want a lunch box, but it was more or less a reminder that God hasn’t forgotten about me. Let me help you understand.

You already know that God works in seasons. I can tell you that the past two years of my life have been the roughest season EVER, especially the past six months. I’m talking about I was really beginning to question some basic fundamentals like, “Am I real? Let me pinch myself.” Okay, please don’t act brand new. When life really stomps your pinkie toe, your mind surely can come up with some stuff.

I felt so far away from God, even though I was doing everything I was supposed to be doing - studying my word, praising, worshiping, serving. I felt like I was living in one of those dreams when you’re walking in pitch-black nothingness yelling, “Hello. Where are you God? You said that you would never leave me. I know that you’re here. I trust you, but please don’t hide from me.” All you can hear is the echo of your own voice. Are you feeling me? It got so bad that the enemy wanted me to curse God. But, no sir! Real country right here, “I ain’t gon’ be able to do it!” God is faithful!

You see - a former co-worker/friend of mine has had my graduation gift since December. Anyway, I finally went to get it last week. I must have acted a fool in my car when I pulled that lunchbox out of that bag. It had Snoopy and Charlie Brown on it. And, I love me some Snoopy. Like, he is the coolest dog ever, right? What other dog do you know can ice-skate and cook Thanksgiving dinner? But I digress.

I totally went into little kid mode, smiling and screaming. My friend was just laughing at me. I admit that my reaction was a bit overly dramatic. At that moment, my faith was more childlike than it had been in a VERY long time More than 20 years later, one of the desires of my heart was fulfilled. I had forgotten all about my childhood wish. Just like some times we forget all about prayer requests we’ve petitioned before God years ago.

My point is this: I could’ve picked up that gift way back in December, but on that particular day I went to get it. At my lowest season, God gave me the smallest reminder of His faithfulness. All I had to do was receive it like a child. My friend, he hasn’t forgotten you either. I encourage you to accept the smallest gift from God today with childlike faith.

When it seems like God has placed your requests on the back burner, just remember that prayers are boomeranging back to you right now! They may not get answered tomorrow, or next week, or even next year. But, don’t lose hope. Your seed will sprout in due season.

You might not get this awkward praise report, but get this - God promised to be with you forever. And friend - forever is a mighty long time.

“I gotta lunchbox!”
“I gotta lunchbox!”

Dancing and singing,

Saki

Misquote-correction

2006-04-27T20:31:00.000-07:00

The quote that I mentioned by Nelson Mandela was actually a misquote. Marianne Williamson is the owner of that quotation. I checked her out, and she’s got some pretty good stuff. My very good friend pointed this out to me. Thanks for the clarification. See, I made a mistake, but it's okay!

Our Deepest Fear from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3

Way to fight back!

2006-04-27T20:07:00.000-07:00

I am so glad to hear about all the things my last post did to encourage you! I was SHOCKED and pumped just from reading your responses. Thanks for all the personal emails too! You all really made my day. Wow! I don’t mean this in a bad way, but it is really good to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way. We’re all in this together, and I hope that we can continue to use the Internet to express ourselves.

Okay, so today was awesome. After yesterday’s loser experience, I was determined to kick some hippopotamus. I had a presentation at 8:30 AM to a group of 11-17 years about preparing for college. Boy, kids are a tough crowd! One kid asked me, “Is it true if you go to a party in college, you shouldn’t drink the punch?” I thought that was too funny. I told them all, “Absolutely! Do not drink the punch!” It was cool to be able to get away from the office and do something different.

You see, my circumstances had me so blind that I forgot how much I actually enjoyed talking to young people. What a relief! I’m on point again.

Then I got to work, and I remembered…I have the coolest freaking job in the world. I get paid to help kids make academic progress and build their self-confidence. I hated sales until I got to this job. Now, I can’t wait to get on the phone to make lead calls or take walk-ins. Shucks! I’m about to give someone’s kid an academic makeover! I love the kids I work with. If you ever want to know who you are at the core, ask a kid.

Keep following your dreams guys, and don’t forget about the little people when you make it to the top.

Peace out,

Kidd Grown

p.s. Tomorrow I think I’ll post about the gas prices and the speculations of energy wars on the horizon. I haven’t hit any political hot buttons lately, but I feel a governement email campaign coming on. These gas prices actually had me thinking of trading in my car for a motorcycle.

I'm Gonna Knock You Out!

2006-04-26T21:50:00.000-07:00

Friend,

The first time I heard T.D. Jakes preach, I was 23 and living in Atlanta. I had just rededicated my life back to Christ, so my faith was pretty lukewarm at the time. Within 2 weeks of that sermon, I was moving to Dallas because of his sermon, “Do What you Do!” I thought, “Surely God created me to do something and that something starts in Dallas, Texas!” For the past five years, I’ve been on a quest to do just that...whatever “that” is.

Along the way, I’ve honestly gone back in forth in my mind on who I am and what exactly is this “mission” supposed to be about. With that, I’ve had many great successes and of course, many great failures in every area of my life trying to accomplish my mission. (I think I have a testimony for every category that could possibly exist.)

Some days, months and seasons, I’m on point. And others...well, I can’t even find a point to begin with. Sometimes I’m “popping my collar” because I know “I’ve got it going on”; yet other days, I feel like the biggest idiot that walked the face of the planet (like today). But in spite of it all, I still know one thing – “The party ain’t over for me!” So, why am I sharing this with you? Because it ain’t over for you either!

It’s 10:45PM, but God placed it in my heart to encourage you, if you have been feeling like me lately (let’s be real, like a big ol’ loser). But, I’m sorry. I’m not a loser, and neither are you. We are both winners, and every great winner knows that it’s okay to fail and/or to make a complete fool of yourself when you’re trying to do yo’ thing. It’s okay to hope, only to have your dreams shattered right before your eyes. It’s okay to go to bed crying to God, “When? When will it work for me?” At least you hoped. At least you tried, right? And at least you KNOW that all things (good and bad) are working together for your good – even though it doesn’t look so good.

(Put your hands in the air.)

“If you believe that you ARE God’s workmanship AND that you are created in the image of Christ Jesus AND that good works have been prepared in advance (and are waiting) for you to do..then make some noise!!!” (Raise the roof.)

Now is not the time to place limitations on yourself or God, my friend. This is the best time to be in the rink-when you’re the underdog, and you’re down for the count - “...Eight! Nine! Te—Ladies and gentlemen, (your name right here) is up!” (The crowd screams!!)

Just remember that you are good enough to be in the fight. No three time world champion enemy can beat the fight that is buried deep within you. It (whatever “it” may be for you) will happen because you’ve got a secret – God’s power is made perfect in your weakness. “So go’n and open up a can of ______. (No time to be professional today people, I’m in a war.) Don’t feel second best, and never settle for second place. You are POWERFUL beyond measure. You are a champion! You wouldn’t be my friend if you weren’t. :-)

I leave you with my second favorite quote of all time. It’s by the great Nelson Mandela.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Round Three!

Kidd Grown
Col. 3:23

Me and My Ways...

2006-04-19T20:30:00.000-07:00

This is funny! A guy that I dated briefly last summer sent this list to me. This was my list of Likes and Dislikes when it comes to dating. I thought it was hysterical that he actually typed these up and saved them. Sad to say, but not much has changed. And "production" means DRAMA. Men and/or people who like to live out movie scripts. In other words, theatrical performances. I ABSOLUTELY HATE THAT. I must admit that I'm kind of quirky.

Likes

• Chocolates
• Computer Paper
• Tulips
• Playing and having fun
• No Production
• No relationships of the opposite sex (special friends)
o Unless a mutual friend
• Movies at home
• Watching sporting events with her man
• Baseball games
• Breast and White Meat (chicken)
• Dancing
• Mexican food

Dislikes

• Picnics
• Production
o Rearranged movie scripts
• No other parts of the chicken (other than mentioned above)
• No roast and pork chops

Who in the heck wears perfume to go jogging??

2006-04-18T18:39:00.000-07:00

I was jogging (well walking) the other morning, and I swear I thought I was wigging out or something. I was going one way and a young lady was quickly approaching me. When she passed, I could of sworn that she was wearing perfume. I thought to myself, "No way. Nobody puts on perfume to go outside and run, right?" On the second lap, she passed me again, and it was confirmed. I was so upset for her. Maybe I'm just clueless. I mean, I don't work out enough to know "exercise protocol", but this seems a little extreme. Am I crazy or something?

P.S. I think Fat Greedy must have died or something. I haven't seen him in like months. I just thought about him right now.

"What it do, baby?"

2006-04-17T17:16:00.000-07:00

When I first heard this phrase from Paul Wall, I couldn’t figure it out. Was he saying, “What’s up?” I guess it could be used that way, but I think it’s a little deeper than that based on what I understand about the hip-hop culture. “What it do?” means (The Kidd’s perspective), “Who are you today? Are you making it happen? How close are to your dream? Can people see you coming?”

So, an appropriate response would be, “I’m holding it down,” or “I’m trying to do my thing,” or “Big pimpin’ (which actually means trying to “come up”). Anyway, enough on the analysis of Ebonics…what I’m really trying to get at is this: “Where are you in the grand scheme of your life?” I’ve been thinking a lot about how my life is similar to the lives of these artists.

(Trust me, I’m going somewhere with this.) It’s so easy to focus on the setbacks in life and to allow your mind to dictate where you are and what your future position will be, even though it has limited knowledge that is based on your past and the experiences you have witnessed through the lives of other people. Confession: This is my greatest struggle as a Christian.

Now back to my point: What it do? Well for me, “It ain’t been doing too much of nothing.” I must confess that despite the fact that I believe this is The Year of No Limitations, I have allowed my dreams to become stifled. I pretty much felt like a failure when my business venture didn’t work out as planned. Then, I realized I had some major character flaws and had to take a break from everything to get right with God. Now that I see the light at the end of the tunnel, I’m ready to get back in the ring. But, where do I start? When to start? Will I make it this time around? These questions haunt me day and night.

All I know is that I have to chase this dream of mine or my life is absolutely worthless – even in the presence of fear. As a mentor put it to me last week, "It's not about you. It's about God getting his glory through you." I'm trippin'. So, from now on when I ask myself, or you ask me, “What it do?” I’ll tell you what it do: I’m doing the will of God and trying to make the world a better place one day at a time, starting with me. I hope that I inspired you to do the same today.

Finishing what I’ve started,

Kidd Grown

Voices

2006-03-10T06:32:00.000-08:00

Voices. Voices. Voices.

I have so many voices in my head!!!! I'm not crazt or anything like that, but I just hear so many voices. Loud voices. Silent voices. Sad voices. Happy voices. Voices telling me to sit still. Voices telling me to go. Voices telling me to hurry up and voices telling me to slow down. Voices telling me to speak up. Voices telling me to shut up. Calm voices. Anxious voices. Voices reminding me of God's love. Voices whispering that He's forgotten about me. Voices that sound like me and voices that don't. Voices that are articulate. Voices that speak ebonics. I am so sick of voices!!!! It's like a mental fight all...day...long. "Hurry, hurry! Step right up and see who will win. It's Kidd Grown's brain versus Kidd Grown's brain?"

And guess what, even now as I'm writing this post, I have a voice asking me, "Why are you writing this? People will think you're crazy. You haven't written in months. Nobody is even reading this stuff. You have other things to be doing." But then, another voice is saying, "Shut up. Don't listen to him. You haven't written anything in a while. You need to get some stuff out. Why? Because there are too many voices in here."

At war,

Kidd Grown

Just catching up...

2006-01-22T18:36:00.000-08:00

What's up y'all? I have been busy. I've started working again. It's been really cool. Other than that, I haven't been up to much. I haven't met any guys lately...well, for a long time. What is the deal? I must have a really GREAT man looking for me because I have been very patient waiting on God for a mate. I think about dating, but I desperately suck at it. I just like being friends with people with the hopes that it will turn into something. Is that too passive? I just hate dates. People are so on their best behavior. It just seems so fake.

But I digress. I have got a lot on my mind though. Things such as:

1) Grillz...uh, this is so not cute.
2) There's a song called, "I'm in love with a stripper." What the heck. What is music coming to? I am so tired of ghetto-fabulousness.
3) The Texas Longhorns unprecedented victory over USC! USC who? Never heard of them.
4) Controlling, stupid and insecure women. I'm sick and tired of them.
5) Why were people going crazy over Memiors of a Geisha? It was ah-ight. Too long. Some of the scenes were unnecessary, but overall it was a beautifully made movie.

I could go on and on. I guess I just need to start writing again. I need to touch base more.

Kidd Grown,
Saki

Funny! Thanks Educators. Parents get on your job.

2006-01-13T20:56:00.000-08:00

This is the actual answering machine message for the school:
>
>
>"Hello! You have reached the automated answering service of your
school.
>In order to assist you in connecting the right staff member, please
>listen to all your options before making a selection:
>
>"To lie about why your child is absent - Press 1
>
>"To make excuses for why your child did not do his work- Press 2
>
>"To complain about what we do - Press 3
>
>"To swear at staff members - Press 4
>
>"To ask why you didn't get information that was already enclosed in
>your newsletter and several flyers mailed to you - Press 5
>
>"If you want us to raise your child - Press 6
>
>"If you want to reach out and touch, slap or hit someone - Press 7
>
>"To request another teacher for the third time this year- Press 8
>
>"To complain about bus transportation - Press 9
>
>"To complain about school lunches - Press 0
>
>"If you realize this is the real world and your child must be
>accountable and responsible for his/her own behavior, class work,
>homework, and that it's not the teachers' fault for your child's lack
>of
>effort:
>
>Hang up and have a nice day!"
>
>
>If you can read this thank a teacher.
>If you are reading it in English thank a veteran.
>

20/20 special

2006-01-13T20:22:00.000-08:00

It's a sad day in America when the news does a report titled, "Stupid in America." We seriously have issues.

A Little Controversy

2005-11-17T15:15:00.000-08:00

Lately the topic of homosexuality keeps coming up. I want to understand how people feel that they are born this way and blame God for making them this way. I just don't buy into this philosophy. One of my friend's said a lady at her job is lesbian and said that she was born gay. She said that she knew she was gay since the age of 3. Isn't this a stronghold. A demonic spirit like anything else such as stealing, pornography, pridefulness, etc.? I mean, don't we constantly have to fight our flesh?The Bible says to "Submit ourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he shall flee from you." But, I guess if you don't know the TRUTH, then you can't fight. But what about those who do know the truth and still choose homosexuality as a lifestyle.

Then, I just watched Oprah, and most of the guests on the show said they knew they were gay at very young ages as well. I was so not feeling this philosophy. There are gay clubs for students and even children's books to help kids (KIDS) understand their sexuality. To me this is horrific!!!

I'm not saying that being gay is hard. I'm sure that there are lots of pressures and lots of ridicule that comes with the territory. But, I just don't believe that God intentionally makes people this way when his word CLEARLY opposes this lifestyle amongst many other things. I don't think anyone has the right to judge (including me), but at the same time I don't think we (as Christian's) should approve homosexuality either. I believe they deserve equal protection under the law, but I am 100% for the preservation of the family unit and matrimony as defined by the creator of the institution, God himself.

I know that everyone isn't Christian, but where does this country go from here on this issue? How do we deal with it? How do we minister to gays without being judgemental? One of my gay coworkers asked me once if I would go to his wedding if he got married. I told him, "no." He got so upset with me, but I explained to him that I wouldn't dare witness any wedding that I morally disagreed with (gay or straight)!!!

I really don't get it,

Kidd Grown

Tis the season for Jacked Up Christmas Lights

2005-11-16T21:02:00.000-08:00

One of my favorite holiday traditions is to go riding and looking for jacked up Christmas lights. This is fun to do by yourself when you need a good laugh or with a group of friends or family. I honestly do not understand what is going through the minds of some people when they were hanging their lights. I mean, who actually hangs something that looks a hot mess, plugs up the lights, goes outside and says, "Ah, yes. Looks great."

This year, I am doing something different. I am taking my digital camera with me so that I can keep some good laughs for a rainy day. I promise to share them with the entire Internet audience (well, those who visit this blog). I'm over here laughing already. I can't wait. And don't think jacked up lights are limited to the hood. There are some suburban folks who are X-Mas light challenged as well.

Starting a petition now to put an end to the madness,

Kidd Grown

Magnum P.I.

2005-11-16T12:58:00.000-08:00

Do you remember "good guy/bad guy" shows when they were good? I just finished watching an episode of Magnum P.I. It was off the chain. The music was good, and Tom Seleck was so cute. The acting was okay, but the story lines were clean and still good. Ooh, now Simon and Simon is coming on!!! Tell me honestly. Does CSI, Law and Order, Without a Tace and all those other shows even compare to the following?:

-Shaft
-Kojak
-Dukes of Hazzard
-Hunter (y'all know Hunter was so cool. He always shot and killed the person though and had the nerve to check for a pulse after doing so)
-A-Team (I got to name my 2nd grade reading group the A-Team because we were such smartie's)
-Knight Rider (Everyone wanted a car like Kit. Remember when he was on Different Strokes. That's another thing they don't do anymore. Allow characters from one show to make appearances on another show)
-Chips
-Hillstreet Blues
-Cagney and Lacy
-Miami Vice

I know I'm forgetting some really good ones, but you know what I mean. Today's stuff is kind of disturbing when you actually watch it. For example, I had to quit watching L&O before bed because I was becoming afraid to go to sleep. Too much blood and guts for me. I'm just sayin'.

Just thinking back to good ol' quality programming.

Kidd Grown

Bring Back Whitney

2005-11-16T12:55:00.000-08:00

I am in desparate need for Whitney Houston to make a come back. I heard "Saving all My Love" on the radio today, and almost went into a frenzie that she has become so desolate. Today, there are so many people landing record deals but have no real ability to sing. We need to hear real voices again. Mariah was one of the few good voices left, but she's too mainstream/hip hop now.

Whitney, if you just so happen to stumble upon this site...please, please, please come back.

Stuff that shocked me today

2005-11-14T19:37:00.000-08:00

Today was very interesting for me. I haven't been to a dollar store in some years. I went today. They have EVERYTHING!!! I was so excited about what I saw. I bought 4 batteries for $2. I had to get out of there because I would've went crazy.

Then, then, then...I saw my first doggy daycare. It was so neat. The dogs were staring out of the window like little kids waiting for their mommies and daddies to pick them up. It was called Demi's Doggy Den. They had a little play area and everything.

I sat there thinking, "Wow. Why couldn't I think of that idea." I mean, people were actually coming to pick up their dogs after work. Now, if they're charging the same prices as daycare for kids, then they are making a grip. One dog was so cute! He was staring at every car that pulled up. It was too cute.

I must admit I wanted to go in and play. Would you put your dog in daycare? I mean, do they really need it?

Kidd Grown

Oprah is the Bomb!

2005-11-11T15:00:00.000-08:00

This woman is BAD!!! There are really no words to say how much I admire Oprah Winfrey. She is one of the greatest people of our time. If you watched the show yesterday and today, you'll see what I'm talking about. Some people don't like Oprah claiming that she isn't Christian, even though she has openly professed her Christian faith. I believe you Oprah, and I see God's glory all over you. You certainly have the light of Jesus Christ shining through you. I'm glad that you use your influence and platform to do good in the world and to actually create change. It is a blessing just to watch her grow and come into her own.

I think we need to be grateful that Oprah has the ability and willingness to be a blessing everyday to ALL people. She is such an inspiration. Alone, she out gives every Black entertainer and billionaire. She gave $10 million of her own personal cash to Katrina Relief. The woman has a heart for blessing people, and rather if you're a believer or not, it is contagious.

I have been crying for the past two days because of the Oprah show. And Beyonce today...When I grow up, I want to be like her. She is BAD and only 24! Another woman of great faith. I guess my takaway today from those two: Faith in Christ + Hard Work + Strength + Pure Heart + Compassion for People = One Doggone Good Purposed Driven Life!!!!

You Go Girls!!!

Kidd Grown

I'm Just Sayin'.

2005-11-10T19:38:00.000-08:00

Hey y'all.

My new saying for the month is "I'm just sayin'." I'm just sayin' can mean a number and wide variety of things. My friend Lady J got me started using it a few weeks back, and I am hooked. I've found it to be very appropriate and fitting for almost any conversation. Just don't use it in a professional setting okay. She's pretty down with the urban lingo, so I thought I'd share it with you so we can all be hip too. Maybe you can contribute to the list because I'm sure I've overlooked some things. You can use this:

--When you are at a loss for words but you don't want to appear to have lost your train of thought. (Play it off cool with a little chuckle.)
--When you don't have anything nice to say about a person or a particular situation. (A good way to cut yourself off before you start complaining.)
--When you're trying to really stress your point, but the other person is not hearing you. (Use it in a higher pitched tone)
--When you're trying to play stupid, like you didn't know something. (start it like this, "Oh,...")
--When you're giving someone advice about what YOU would do in their situation, but you don't want to TELL them what they need to do or what you feel they should do. (in a calm tone, start it like this, "Well,...". Really stress the "well")
--When you're really ticked off with a situation. (sarcastically say, "You know what...(pause)...I'm just sayin'.)

You don't have to use any of these, but I'm just sayin.

Kidd

Kidd Grown vs. Fat Greedy: Round 1

2005-11-10T14:51:00.000-08:00

Okay, this cat is off the chain! Me and him are going to go at it. He tried to block my path today when I was trying to get into the house. When I tried to shoo him away, he hissed at me. His back turned all up and stuff. I was like, "no he didn't." All of that wasn't even necessary. My friend said to get a spray bottle of water because cats are afraid of water. I didn't know that, but next time..Oh, next time it is going to be so on with him.

I hear him outside right now fighting with another cat. Why can't he stay at his own house? It's bad enough that we have to deal with human enemies and now we have to fight with animals. Dang Gina!

I'm just sayin'.

Meet Fat Greedy

2005-11-10T11:44:00.000-08:00

Okay, here's Fat Greedy y'all. He thinks he runs the neighborhood. He was punking this other cat earlier. He is such a bully. He lays on top of people's cars and won't get up, even when you turn on the ignition and get ready to pull out. He blocks the sidewalk when he takes a nap. He lays on other people's porches. I have no idea who he belongs to, but he needs a leash. He is so bad. And, he ain't even a cute cat.

His meow is even lazy. He had the nerve to roll up to me like we were friends. I was just trying to take his picture so you all can see what I have to deal with every day. If you don't know what I'm talking about, read "That Darn Cat."

They'd better get him before Fat Greedy and I exchange some words and/or licks.

I'm not "kitten" around,

Kidd Grown

A Wedding Just ain't a wedding without the...

2005-11-09T22:14:00.000-08:00

Now, you know "we" have to do the slide, cha-cha, bunny hop and Harlem shuffle. If you are Black, this is a wedding reception must have. I think I've only been to one wedding in my entire life where we did not partake in this tradition. It is so fun though. Me and my one friend have this thing we do with our hand when we do the slide. It's like you're winding up something. I dare you to break out right now where you are and do one of these dances. You know you want to.

Speaking of dancing, I'm losing my touch. I used to be able to bust a move back in the day. Now, my moves consist of moving side to side and waking up sore the next morning. I did try to impress my old friends with some of my new hip-hop dance moves that I've been learning from the kids at my church. I so cannot do them, but they thought I was jamming. I think I was a little bit too.

It's funny how perceptions of my dancing ability can range. While my line sisters thought I could dance quite well, I have some other friends who absolutely refuse to graduate me from their school of dance. This one girl told me that I looked like I was rolling up a car window when I was trying to rock the chicken head. I was rolling. But, I think I should get an A for effort because I try really hard. In my head, I am really rocking it like Beyonce.

Now, back to the wedding. I went to the most fabulous wedding this past weekend (that's where we did the slide). My friend was so beautiful, and her new hubby is such a great guy. They looked so happy together. They are a beautiful couple, and he broke down at the alter with the tears. I was like, "that's what I'm talking about bro." Can a sister get the breakdown? It was fun just hanging out with old friends. I realized that the older we get in life, the more fabulous we should get also. I don't mean fabulous in an arrogant sense of the word, but fabulous as in richer, more full of life, hope and peace. That was my revelation for what it was worth. Look at Oprah and Vanessa Williams. They are like so the bomb.

Anyway, here's the only decent picture that I was able to leave with from the wedding. I bought this doggone camera thinking that my life would change for the better (you know...capture more of those precious life moments). NOT!

"Right foot, 2 stomps!"

The Kidd

The Kidd's Out of Style List

2005-11-09T18:35:00.000-08:00

Not that I'm an expert on any of these topics, but these are just my personal observations with contributions from my friend-girl. No offense to anyone; I'm just saying. Hey, I'm not even in style right now (check out bullet #3 for women). Feel free to agree or not.

For Women:
-Hair weave (not that it is a bad thing, but it's just not in anymore. replaced by natural hair and relaxers)
-White shoes of any sort (replaced by another other color that is not white)
-Single Black women in general (replaced by white girls or other men on the DL)
-Caramel-toned sisters (replaced by light-skinned women, dark-skinned women or non-Black women)
-Fake nails, eyelashes, colored contacts (replaced with what you came into the world with)

For Men:
-Dark skinned brothers (replaced by light skinned brothers. Sorry, blame it on Boris and Shamar. You all had your time in the 90s)
-Corn rows (replaced with fades or bald heads, thank God!)
-Muscle/tight fitted shirts (replaced by loose and/or cropped fitted shirts)
-Fubu type gear (replaced with the Banana Republic look)

For All:
-PT Cruisers, Chrysler 300s (I don't get the hype)
-A curl (yes, I've seen these resurging in the Dallas area)

NEVER OUT OF STYLE: Jesus Christ!

Thinking of a way to make a comeback,

Kidd Grown

Blogging from class

2005-11-09T18:32:00.000-08:00

I'm sitting here, and I truly can't believe that this is my last semester of grad school. I am getting a little sentimental. But I do have a BAD case of senioritis. I think half the class is the same way. After the break, about 10 people disappeared. This class is cool, but I think my instructor rambles too much. Not that I can talk.

Oh well. I'm going to start writing regularly again because I got clowned for false advertisement this weekend.

Peace out,
The Kidd

Terrell Owens Needs a Whippin'

2005-11-07T21:26:00.000-08:00

What is really going on with this fool? Yes, he is foolish. He is a grown man and acting like a little boy who lost the race. Temper tantrums, talking smack about his teammates...just showing out for NO reason. This is the issue I have with most of today's athletes. They reach a certain level of success and go stone cold crazy. People would kill to make that kind of money, and you throw it all away on some nonsense.

I'm glad that Philly is getting rid of him. Let this be a lesson to all of us: You can have all the talent, skill, natural ability, knowledge, etc., but if you have a crummy attitude, you will only get so far. I hope his momma randomly shows up on his doorstep with a switch (one of the long kinds too) and go upside his behind. This goes back to my point a couple of weeks ago about the NBA thugs or businessmen.

And you wonder we have 90% black representation on the field and less than 1% on the coaching staff, and zilcho in franchise ownership. These (not all, but a fairly good majority of them) need to learn how to act. Perhaps, you are giving people a very valid reason to believe that you are only good for throwing or dribbling the ball.

I'm just saying.

Kidd Grown

Not mine, but it's good

2005-11-07T21:25:00.000-08:00

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree.

Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing.

They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree. Share this with women who are good apples, even those who have already been picked!

Is your mailman ghetto? Mine is.

2005-11-03T14:42:00.000-08:00

This Negro here is hilarious. Okay, first of all he is always late. We never get our mail on time. Secondly, he keeps shoving all the magazines in my box, and I can't get them out. Our boxes are the little old verticle boxes like up north. I keep leaving the magazines in the box and getting all the other stuff thinking that he would get the picture. But, I guess not. He keeps leaving them in there and putting stuff on top of it. So, my neighbor recommended that I leave a note for him to leave the magazines on my doorstep. Now, I live in an 8-plex house, so it isn't like he would have to walk far. Just go up one flight of stairs and leave the magazines.

Didn't happen. Then I saw the Negro yesterday posted up in the middle of the street talking to another brother. Today, this fool was chilling in his mailman car bumping some K104. I was like, why does my mailman have to be ghetto?

I'm just saying...

I'm a believer

2005-10-31T20:02:00.000-08:00

Just wanted to say that I'm sorry. I was beginning to think that there weren't any more GREAT men in the world for single black women like myself. But, I met a really cool guy yesterday that restored my faith in my brothers.

Y'all ah-ight.

Mo' powa!

The Kidd

Janet Jackson having a daughter isn't true...

2005-10-26T16:38:00.000-07:00

My bad. I'm acting really old right now. Ignore my previous post. This is just a rumor.

Shamefully,

Saki

Craig's List

2005-10-26T14:38:00.000-07:00

If you haven't been able to check out Craig's List, it is the bomb! It has everything. If you are looking for a job like me, this is the place to go. I've gotten more responses from this list than I have gotten from Monster. It is so cool.

http://www.craigslist.org

Bye Bye to Howard Stern

2005-10-26T07:18:00.000-07:00

Did y'all hear that David Lee Roth (Van Halen) is replacing Howard? I think that's cool. I've never liked Howard Stern anyway. His hair got on my nerves. He had too much. Anyway, I don't know much about David Lee Roth, but I did love me some Van Halen back in the day.

Don't act brand new either. Remember, "Jump!" and "Panama"! I think that must have been before Video Soul, so all we had was MTV. I'm surprised we had that. Maybe that's why we had to unplug the cable before we went to school in the morning...things that make you go, "Hmm?"

"I want my MTV!"

KIDD GROWN

What is really going on???!!!!

2005-10-26T06:50:00.000-07:00

Janet's got a secret child who's 18. Sheryl Swoops is coming out. WHAT THE HECK!!!! Ooh, we need to do better. What else is Janet keeping from us? I mean, it is so not that serious. How you gon' hide a person for a year for 18 years!!!!! That ain't right. And the girl is beautiful. I am going to pray for my sister.

I'm just saying. And Sheryl. O my goodness. That is so sad. We need to pray for our people, for this nation and for Christians. I'm not judging anyone. I'm just saying.

Lord help us!

The Kidd

Texas Longhorns

2005-10-25T17:08:00.000-07:00

I am just so happy for my team. Did y'all see Vince Young pop his collar when he got a touch down? I was like, you go boy! I smell ROSES!!! Here is a picture of me and my friends from Texas-OU weekend.

Here's a deep thought for you. Why do people drive from another city (like 200-300 miles) to attend a watch party and other events? Can't they like get together in the city where they live and do the same thing? Just something I think about every time the TX/OU weekend rolls around. Gotta go. I missed last week's Apprentice so I gotta catch up.

All hail to the 2006 National Champions!
Kidd

NBA Thugs or Businessmen?

2005-10-25T14:40:00.000-07:00

Whatever happened to the day when NBA stars arrived to the game in their nice sports cars and 3-piece suits? I still have a vivid image of Michael Jordan and Scottie Pippen as they entered the arena before a game. They looked like they were going to work. Oh, there's a key word, "work." That's how they viewed the game. They showed up like they were ready to close a $100 million deal. They were serious.

Today, these cats just show up looking like who did it and what for. Like they just got off the couch from playing video games and drinking Kool-Aid. Take Ben Wallace for example, there were times when half of his hair was braided and the other half wasn't. I was like...what the heck is that? We need to do better for real. The Answer: Dress Code.

I'm not for telling grown folks what to wear, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. They have a dress code for the game - a uniform - so what's the big deal. Maybe, this will restore professionalism back to the sport. I mean it is a "professional" sport, right?

I liked what Michael Jordan said on 60 Minutes the other night. He said that too many of these new kids are getting props and endorsements that they haven't earned. They haven't worked hard enough for it yet. The love and respect for the game is slowly dimming. I thought, "Hello! Can you like be their counselor/mentor or something?" I agree. It's just like a lot of these rappers and singers. They have one hit song and then they get a lifetime achievement award.

I vote for NBA businessmen not NBA thugs.

www.Bringbackthesuits.com,

The Kidd

Salute to Rosa Parks

2005-10-25T13:32:00.000-07:00

I don't think there are any words to express the gratitude that we owe Mrs. Parks. What I find particularly sad right now is that we usually don't remember people or their contributions until they pass. She was a true pioneer. I guess the biggest lesson that I take from her life is that even the most simple act can lead to a major revolution of change for the betterment of society. Rather we stand for justice, kindness, economic empowerment or whatever - we should do just that...STAND. As black Americans, I sometimes think that we have gotten too comfortable with the benefits that people like Rosa Parks stood and and in numerous cases died for. We work hard to get a college education to get a good job so that we can buy a house in the suburbs, get married and have 2.5 kids. The American Dream right? Wake up y'all. It's time to get back in the fight for justice and equality for all, starting with our people.

Let's rekindle the love that we once had for each other as brothers and sisters in a foreign land. It never seems to amaze me how so many nationalities can migrate to America and within 20 years have more home ownership, more college graduates, more small business establishments than we do, even though we've been here longer. We are more likely to be poor, uneducated, incarcerated, divorced, date and marry outside of our race and the list goes on.

I am not militant. I am just saying. We need to find the love. The only way we can impact this country and this world for the better is if we learn to love each other first as brothers and sisters. This means, brothers quit dogging sisters out and saying that we are too loud and hard to love. Step up your game and be leaders, help us and love us for who we are. Sisters, that means quit settling and taking care of grown men who need grow up. Quit chasing them down. Quit marrying/dating for superficial reasons. Let's chill, okay. Let's get back to finer womanhood and when our men back. Not for romance, or course we want and need that too, but for the sake of our future viability. Lastly, let's work together to reach back and build our young generation. Today, they need our faces, skills, mistakes, successes, etc. now more than ever. As Hollywood continues to put negative images all around the world of our people, let's work to affect our young people at the lowest common denominator - in our homes and communities. Let's teach them to go beyond obtaining "things" and getting into the mindset of being world changers - spiritually, politically and economically.

Whatever your profession or passion is, use it! You never know when God will present your opportunity to change the world. For Rosa Parks, it was allowing her to be so tired from work that she refused to get up. Now, that is the POWER of God to take an everyday experience that we all have and use it to do a great thing in the world.

Boy, I sure I hope I haven't missed my chance. If so, I believe that he'll give me another one. I believe that he will give you one too. As a matter of fact, I believe that he will give our people another one too.

Be of good courage!

Kidd Grown

Ummmm...why does Madonna have a British Accent

2005-10-21T19:39:00.000-07:00

Okay, I was watching Extra and heard Madonna talking. Why is she acting like she's not from America? I mean, is it true that if you live in a country for a couple of years you actually start speaking like the locals. I'm just trying to understand. Tina Turner did that too, and you know that she's from the country. I think I'll start going around speaking like I'm from Africa this week. Then next week, I'm going to get a Spanish accent. As a matter of fact, I think I'll just do this for the month of November just to be different.

I'm just saying.

Good-day mate (with an Australian accent)

The Kidd

JUST DON'T QUIT

2005-10-16T17:30:00.000-07:00

God bless you today! This is so good. I hope it blesses you to keep on keep, keep, keeping on...

Some of your goals will take time to achieve. Don't give up! Don't sit
down! Don't wish, wait, whine and worry. No one will be more committed or
concerned about the quality of your life than YOU. Do what you need to do
to bring Harmony, Progress, Peace of Mind and Success into YOUR LIFE!

Prioritize your needs, wants, demands and desires.
Strategize by developing a plan of action.
Organize your living and working space.
Realize where you are sabotaging or hindering your growth.
Utilize your time well. Procrastination is a thief.
Minimize your shortcomings, stress and toxic relationships.
Maximize your opportunities, assets, talents, gifts and education.
Visualize the outcome you want to experience.
Energize your body with sufficient rest, healthy food, rest and optimism.

Be Blessed!

--
For God hath not given us the
spirit of fear; but of power, and
of love, and of a sound mind
1 Timothy 1:7

Bored and can't sleep

2005-10-09T23:13:00.000-07:00

I can't sleep. For some reason I've been like this lately. I don't know what's the deal. I've always been a night owl, but this is ridiculous. It's not that I'm stressing or anything. I would just rather be awake (like a baby who fights sleep thinking he/she is going to miss all the action). Granted there is no action taking place at the Kidd's household this late other Praise in the Night on 91.7. I swear. People call into the radio station and say the craziest things. I mean, why put your business in the street? I'm not going to lie. I call to request prayer, but some of these people get on the air and tell their whole life story. I'm so emotional. I'll be in the bed trying to sleep but end up crying. It's like watching a really sad movie.

Speaking of movies, I just saw The Gospel. New post coming right up.

The Kidd

The Gospel...Now I Ain't Sayin' it was Bad, but...

2005-10-07T23:17:00.000-07:00

Ooh. I haven't been this dissapointed in a long, long, long time in a movie. But first, let me start with the praise because that's what you do when you are the bearer of bad news.

Um, one word. "Boris" I know that's some woman's husband, but that is one good looking brother. My goodness. Okay, back to reality. The cast was awesome. Maybe a little too star studded,, but it was cool watching some of my favorite actors and performers on the same screen. The music was excellent too. Definitely a soundtrack worth purchasing.

Okay, so that's about it. Y'all, this was obviously low budget. Not that I have a thing against low budget or independent films, but at least make sure the money is invested in the right direction. For example, the cast probably costs the most money. Not a very wise decision in my opionin because a lot of new up and coming actors and artists could've been used instead. Given the fact that nearly every single person in the movie who had a part was a superstar, led me to believe that this is the reason that the editing was so BOOTLEG! There were times when I thought someone had a video camera shooting the film.

The story line was not very well developed either. My friend almost fell asleep, and the only thing that kept me awake was Boris. I'm not going to dog the movie out because it was positive and had a Christian theme to it, but it did not do it for me.

The Kidd could've had a meal from Boston Market instead.

Guess who had the nerve to just pass me in the hallway....

2005-10-07T23:10:00.000-07:00

Amber. That little monster looked at me like we were cool now. I'm still bitter. Had the nerve to rub up against my post. She'd better watch her back.

News for women entrepreneurs in Dallas

2005-10-05T21:16:00.000-07:00

For Immediate Release
For More Information Contact
Gina Grant
Women That Soar
972-222-4034
gginagrant@aol.com

Local Group Host, “Women Of The World,” And Serve As A Catalyst For Building Partnerships To Support Economic Growth And Entrepreneurship Among Women

Dallas, Texas October 3, 2005, Women That Soar, a local Dallas company will host, “Women of the World, Women Uniting To Help Women,” a kickoff reception and forum Friday, October 28, 2005, from 6:30 to 8:30 P.M. @ Stephanie Ward Art Gallery in Dallas, Texas 2546 Elm St. The reception and forum will be the launch for plans to help increase economic wealth, global alliances, partnerships and empowerment among women.

Women Of The World is collaborative effort between Women That Soar, Women For Women International, and International Gift Of Hope. The organizations have joined forces to raise awareness and money for women in Africa. Organizers hope that their efforts will unite and empower women around the world, stimulate economic growth, and provide an opportunity for them to form global alliances.

Former publicist Gina Grant, who is also the Founder of Women That Soar, says she got the idea for the campaign after watching a segment of the Oprah show. Ms. Winfrey had Women For Women’s International’s founder, Zainab Salbi on her show, to share the unimaginable hardships that women in The Congo and Rwanda face on a daily basis. Winfrey appealed to women around the world to write encouraging and supportive letters and to assist in providing economic relief.

“Our primary initiative is to serve as a catalyst for building partnerships to support economic development and entrepreneurship among women globally. I believe its time that we unite and help women, especially women in Africa; who don’t have resources and opportunities. We will achieve our goal by hosting forums, workshops and luncheons in ten national markets and two International markets bringing attention to our efforts.” said Ms. Grant.

Event attendees will have the opportunity to mingle, network, and sit in on an open forum and panel discussion. Participants will here from local top-female CEO’s on what it takes to sustain and operate a successful and vibrant business; and find out how they can be apart of our efforts to band together provide relief to deadly scourges that is paralyzing African women.

For additional information about the upcoming event, contact Gina Grant @ gginagrant@aol.com or 972-222-4034 or log on to www.womenthatsoar.com or www.womenforwomen.org, www.giftofhope.com

That Darn Cat!

2005-10-04T21:49:00.000-07:00

Okay, last week I was the pet sitting queen. I had my friend’s Cocker Spaniel for the fist half of the week, and then I was tasked to watch my neighbor’s cat and dog for the remainder of the week through Sunday.

If you know me, it’s really hard for me to tell people “no”. So, I accepted my neighbor’s request. Looking back, I probably should’ve thought about it a little bit more. Anyway, the first night (Thursday) that I go over to check on them, the drama began. Anyhoo, I was excited to let out the dog, Gracie, who is half-way deaf. She’s so cute and sweet. My neighbor told me that the cat likes to get out. So, I let her out too. I didn’t realize that she meant out-out.

I open the main door, and the darn cat shoots out. I still have Gracie who has special needs, so I couldn’t leave her. I try to walk fast to find the cat. But, Amber was gone. I took Gracie back inside. (BTW, this is the only dog I have ever heard of who does the #1 and #2 on the sidewalk. Yes. It’s like she can’t wait to get on the grass or something. It was so trifling. Of course I cleaned it up, but I was very ticked off about it. Maybe her handicap prevents her from doing it the right way.)

But I digress. I decide to go back to my place and check for Amber in 10 minutes. I go back outside and the cat is still not there. So, I keep going back outside every 10 minutes until about 12:30. I was so pooped, and I had a job interview the next morning. So, I went to bed.

So I was really freaking out about the possibility that I lost my neighbor’s cat. I was crying like a baby for real. I prayed and asked God to help me find the cat. I was afraid to go to sleep because thought Amber would return when I was sleep and I would miss her. I dreamt about the cat and everything. I woke up the next morning searching for Amber.

I went around the neighborhood looking for cats. I saw one house with about 10 cats chilling, and I thought one of them was Amber. So I get out of the car and approach the cats like I’m a police officer breaking up loiters or something. I was calling her name, “Amber.” Why did they all scatter like they were guilty of a crime? So, I decided to ring the doorbell and ask the owner if the suspect cat belonged to her. No answer. I hate to admit this, but I almost grabbed the suspect and pulled a Ben Stiller in “Meet the Parents”. I thought my neighbor wouldn’t be able to tell the difference. I mean a cat is a cat right? It was the same color and size.

So, I took another block to rethink my plan. I pulled back up and watched the cats play. This cat was a little too aggressive with the other cats to be Amber, so I left it alone. I went to another block a few miles away and saw another cat chilling in a driveway. Again, I pull up like 5-0 and watch the cat. Just wondering if it was Amber. So, I call and the cat just stared at me. (I didn’t learn until later that cats don’t respond to their names like dogs do.) Then, I noticed that someone was home and was watching me through the window. I felt about 1-inch tall. I quickly pulled away and took a block. I was so embarrassed that I decided not to go ring the doorbell. I did park along the corner across the street and again watched the cat. I could’ve sworn it was Amber. Anyway, I was calling animal control and decided to post some signs around the neighborhood. For the next two days, I put out some food on the porch during the day, but the fat bully cat next door kept eating it. I know it was him with his greedy self.

My neighbor was returning Sunday morning, and it was now Friday afternoon. All weekend, I was dreading this conversation with her. I didn’t know what the cat meant to her, you know. It could’ve been willed to her by her long lost relative or something crazy like that. I didn’t want to be remembered as the girl who lost the cat. Plus, she would’ve been mugging me every time she saw me.

So, Saturday night when I returned home I was practicing the conversation in my head. I walked Gracie once more for the night. We got about halfway down the block when I heard a meow. I thought it was Fat Greedy. I turned around, and IT WAS AMBER! Praise God!

I wanted to beat her little tail and hug her at the same time. Shoot, I don’t even like cats. I huddled her and Gracie up and took them in the house. She was really hungry so I fed her. So, I finally got a peaceful night of sleep. I thanked God for finding the cat. I haven’t run into my neighbor yet, so I haven’t decided if I should tell her or not what happened. Needless to say, I will not be watching any more cats – ever, ever, ever again.

That was my crazy weekend!

The cat in the hat,

Kidd Grown

Complaint about America's Next Top Model

2005-10-04T21:01:00.000-07:00

Okay, it isn't just me. I've talked to several other people this week about this little lesbian plot that Tyra has going on her show. Obviously, I am opposed to such a lifestyle, but I believe in freedom of choice and speech. However, I don't think we need this on regular television. I expect to see two women making out in the back of a car on a cable network. If I wanted to see that, I would watch the Real World. So many young girls idolize Tyra, and I really have a hard time believing that she could be so irresponsible to not consider this large and impressionable group of her show audience. What if they think that's what they have to do to become a model or to be on her show. I don't know if they're trying to boost ratings or whatever, but I am SO not impressed.

I hope that if you felt uncomfortable in your spirit when watching this, that you would write her show and express your dislike of the choice to air such content. Needless to say, I won't be watching the show until they pull this. I know I'm only one person, but if 1 million people felt this way and decided not to watch, I'll bet her producers would wake up and smell the coffee. I love Tyra to death, but I can't do it. The auto-reply that I got back says that this email address is for photos only. However, if enough people write to it, I'm sure the message will get to her. tyrabanks@studiofanmail.com

Here's my letter. See, I was really nice unlike the other ones I usually send when I am swole.

Hi Tyra,

I greatly admire you for your entrepreneurial efforts and the many positive ventures you have pursued in the past. I am so glad that you are positive role model to young women, in particular to black young ladies. I too am African-American, so I give you mad props my sister. But Tyra, I am very disappointed and disturbed about the lesbian plot currently on your show. I am very surprised to see that you would support such activity by perpetuating it through your show.

I think you should strongly consider pulling the lesbian plot of the two model hopefuls on your show. I don’t think it serves a purpose, and it only takes away from the show in my opinion. I have heard many of my friends say that they are going to quit watching if this is continued. I would hate for your ratings to go down, but I know they will because many Americans share this view.

I expect to see something like this on cable, but not on a regular television where millions of children watch. We do not need to expose young ladies and children who watch and admire you to an alternative lifestyle. Your show should be about the quest for being the next top model, not about a relationship that is occurring between two women in the house. We can watch the Real World for that. Again, it just has no point other than to try to attract a new audience. I’m not sure what your producers are doing, but I don’t agree with it.

I won’t be watching your show (as much as it hurts me to do it because I love it) anymore until this is removed.

Still a fan though,

Saki L. Milton
Dallas, TX

How to Ask a Man Out Without Asking a Man Out

2005-10-04T19:42:00.000-07:00

This one is for the ladies. This is not from the Kidd, but this is some good stuff that my friend forwarded to me. I might have to put some of these practices into play.

by Jason B. Illian
September 28, 2005

Okay, let's get practical. It's one thing to talk about the perfect-world scenario—boy likes girl, girl likes boy, boy asks girl on date, girl accepts, they date and fall madly in love—it's another thing entirely when the dating environment resembles crossing a five-lane highway blindfolded and inebriated. The current reality is that many Christian women aren't getting asked out by Christian men, and this dating vacuum is sucking some women down a desperate hole. But don't lose heart. There are a number of effective, biblical strategies that Venusians can apply to increase their chances at getting asked out on a date. You just have to learn how to ask a man out without asking a man out.

I'm not necessarily advocating that women start asking men out or that women become the leaders in the relationship. I'm simply suggesting a few ideas that will help you capture a man's attention. More than anything, we need to realize that dating is less like a rescue and more like a dance. Both parties have a role to play. So ladies, break out your high heels and try waltzing to this the next time you see that mysterious man across the room …
Be noticeable—In the Song of Solomon, the beauty asks Solomon, "Where do you tend your sheep?" (1:7). Properly translated to 21st century lingo, scholars have discovered she was asking, "Where is your Starbucks? Where do you hang out so I can show up there and be noticed by you?"

I think too many of us are holding on to the fantasy that God will miraculously drop the love of our life from heaven, gift-wrapped and marriage-ready. While he certainly can, this appears to be his least-used strategy. God definitely has a big part to play in your romance, but so do you. If you want to be noticed by that dashing hunk across the room, be noticeable.

I like to refer to it as "the wave." If you want Prince Charming to fight for your heart, then give him permission to fight for your heart. Wave him down. Engage him. Most women go to dinner or out on the town with a group of their friends. No matter how confident a man is, most men won't approach a woman who's surrounded by her three best guard dogs. It's just too risky. So, if you want him to come talk to you, catch his eye. Wave at him. Wink at him. Get up and go to the restroom at the same time he does. Hold his glance a few seconds longer than normal. Do something so he knows it's safe to introduce himself.

For the most part, there isn't necessarily a list of right and wrong ways to get a man's attention. What you do is more of a reflection of your personality and the situation. But don't be afraid to be creative or clever.

One girl "waved" at me recently after I finished playing pool with a couple of my buddies. I noticed this intriguing girl when I first walked into the room but realized she was with two guys and another girl. A closed door, I thought. But when I was returning the pool balls, she got in line behind me to rent the table. We struck up a conversation and I found out she was just hanging out with friends from work. She waved at me. I noticed.
Be approachable—A woman's body language says much more about her intentions than her words. A guy is more willing to engage you if you and your friend are standing more shoulder-to-shoulder than face-to-face. Just like they taught us in kindergarten, create an open environment that invites others to join your group. If you're hanging out with a mixed group of men and women, you have to be even more conscious of being approachable. You can't expect any man—except the institutionally insane—to approach you if it appears you may be with another guy. Most of us want to get a phone number, not a black eye.

And if a courageous man does approach you and your friend, that's your friend's cue to do something else. No man wants an audience as he awkwardly tries to introduce himself and start a conversation. Remember, men have feelings too, and we're often very nervous about approaching a woman we don't know.

The key to being approachable is to have fun. Men are much more likely to cross the room and talk to you if it appears you're having a good time. Two of my single guy friends recently enrolled in a cooking class to improve their shameful cooking skills. On the first night of class, they realized they were the only men in the room. When they were struggling to stuff their turkey, who do you think they asked for assistance? You guessed it—the two girls across the room who were laughing, smiling, and making a complete mess. Two of them have started a friendship that could lead to more in the future.

Go out to have fun and you'll naturally attract men who share the same passion for life.
Be flirtatious—Like sex, flirting gets a bad rap in most Christian circles. There's a time and place for flirting just like there's a time and place for sex. (Just so we're on the same page, the time and place for sex is called marriage.)

If, by flirting, we're referring to how a woman expresses her God-given personality around the opposite sex, how she enjoys the abundant life, and how she attracts others with her heart and not just her hips, then flirt away. On the other hand, if we're referring to a woman using her voluptuous figure to arouse lust in men or win sexual favors, then she's abusing her Jedi powers. There's nothing inherently wrong with flirting if a woman's intentions are admirable. It's when flirting becomes a sport or misleading that things get complicated.

So what exactly is admirable and permissible? Well, it depends on the situation. A couple years ago, I had front-row seats as I watched a sweet Christian girl flirt with my roommate at a volunteer inner-city clean up. The girl partnered with my roommate as they picked up trash around the neighborhood. Being only ten yards away most the time, I had the opportunity to hear how she engaged him in both interesting and silly conversation. After she tackled him into a pile of leaves, my roommate said he'd get even with her the next week. She said, "Why wait that long?" and then walked away. She had him hook, line, and sinker. He called her and took her to dinner a few days later.

Flirting doesn't need to be sexual, but it does have to be intriguing. Remember, a man can't get to know your heart and mind if he doesn't spend time with you. Give him an invitation to spend time with you.

Of course, all of this advice hinges on the premise that you actually go somewhere and do something. Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Most of our dating methods are insane. If you want to meet new people, you have to get out of your same old routine and follow your passions, whether that entails taking a cooking class, learning how to two-step, operating a power saw, or firing a hand gun. And when you do notice that cute guy, wave at him … it may encourage him just enough to ask for your number.

Why does John Madden talk so much?

2005-10-03T18:24:00.000-07:00

GHETTO: Man, you can't even watch the game because he runs his mouth the entire time!!! And most of the time, he ain't even talking about nothing...telling random stories of yesterday.

I mean, the man is a football genius but they need to tell him to shut up sometimes. I think Al is scared of him. AND, to quit drawing all over the doggone screen. I swear. He is really working my nerves tonight.

Oh well, I guess I'd rather have him then Magic Johnson. Who could ever forget, "They done throwed the ball!"

JPMorgan Gives Katrina Grants

2005-09-21T10:17:00.000-07:00

Are you considering aiding victims of Hurricane Katrina, or advancing your current programs. JPMorgan provides grants for the following fields of interest: Arts; Children, services; Community development; Economic development; Education; Elementary/secondary education; Employment; Employment, training; Housing/shelter; Human services, financial counseling; Museums; Public affairs; Public policy, research; Recreation, parks/playgrounds; Urban/community development.

The grant application process involves two phases - a preliminary inquiry and, if accepted, an invitation to apply. Please note that the process may vary from state to state.

To get started, you must identify the region in which the program will be administered by going to the Grant contacts page, where you can locate your state contact. From there, you can submit your preliminary inquiry.

Your preliminary inquiry should begin with the following:

A brief description of your organization's:
Mission
Program focus and population served
Program/project description
Program/project budget
Program/project evaluation methods and project outcomes
Geography to be served
Your contact information
If your organization has been previously funded, a description of how the grant funds were used and the grant's impact on the communities you serve

We will contact you after receiving your preliminary inquiry. If we feel that the objectives of the proposal and organization are aligned with our key interests, you will be asked to complete the full application which may include the following information:

A list of the organization's recent achievements
The current operating budget, program budget (if applicable), principal funding sources and levels
The organization's most recent annual report and audited financial statements
A list of board members and their affiliations
The IRS letter certifying 501(c)(3) exempt status
The organization's articles of incorporation and bylaws

The following guidelines are used in evaluating the proposal:

Alignment with our three focus areas of philanthropic giving
Demonstration of effective organizational, programmatic and financial objective setting and management
Evidence of broad-based support, with an accounting of funds received from public and private sources
Description of the target population to be served
Evidence that the service is a response to a valid need, is superior to other competing services and/or encourages collaboration with other organizations for maximum leverage
Documentation of previous program success or substantial reasons to expect such success in the future

Application deadline: Open

See their web site at http://www.jpmorganchase.com/grants for full details.

My Response back to their Response

2005-09-14T22:47:00.000-07:00

Hello:

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my email. I do greatly appreciate it. I apologize for my late response; my computer crashed this weekend. The coverage on all stations has improved in my opinion. I am hearing less of looting and more on the attempts to rescue people and get them adequate placement, schooling, etc. I do applaud those efforts.

My greatest concern with the looting was the millions of sensationalized negative impressions that are broadcasted worldwide of African-Americans. If you are a person of color, I am sure that you can understand how damaging this can be to the perception of one's race and individualism.

For example, several people I spoke to this weekend wanted to take in a family (when that time comes) but were afraid to do so because of these perceptions. Although, you will always have a few bad apples in every bunch, I do not think it is fair to those who do not participate in such activity to suffer the repercussions of others' poor choices.

I have been volunteering and speaking with victims all weekend, and I can truly say that the people I have come into contact with are sincerely grateful to be alive and for the help that is being provided in Dallas. One man that I spoke to said that he could not leave early because he was afraid he would lose his job. Me and you both probably have the luxury of taking vacation time, but some people are so dependent on their employers that they cannot afford to do so. I think the annual median household income in New Orleans was somewhere around $7,500. This leads me to believe that so many could not afford to go, even if they wanted to. I could be wrong, but this is my logic. I have really thought a lot of the untold stories that are out there and will possibly never be heard.

On any note, I think stories such as this one should surface to the general public because they have the potential to reveal a range of underlying issues that can explain what went wrong with authorities and civilians. In general, I believe that the media has the power to bring these stories to the masses so that we can place greater demands on our elected officials to change policy that will protect the lives of all citizens in times of crises. For example, perhaps there should be a law that would protect disaster victims from losing their jobs, healthcare benefits or even damaging to their credit reports because of such events. I hope that more news stations, such as NBC5i would be compelled to bring such stories to the public so that we will all be more socially responsible in the future.

The media is such a powerful force in our society, probably more than our government, in shaping the lives of people. I just wanted to let you know that. Again, thanks for you time and I wish you well in your future endeavors. If you have any questions for me, please feel free to contact me.

Regards,

Saki L. Milton

Katrina: Demand a Change Follow up

2005-09-14T22:44:00.000-07:00

Okay, the first thing I realized that if I was going to place a demand on people, or the media then I had to place a demand on myself. This meant that I had to get off my own rear end and put in some work. So you know I got a little crunk on the media with the whole Katrina ordeal. I thought I'd give you an update on what went down after my little crusade ended.

The first thing I learned was that writing news stations took a lot longer than you think it would. You have to read everything about three times before you send it so that you won't end up on the FBI terrorist suspect list. Sista is not trying to do 20 to life with Big Ruth (as my friend put it). Don't quite see that in the forecast.

So after I sent my emails to all the local stations, the three major networks, CNN and MNBC, I decided to get up and get involved with the relief recovery effort. What started out as a day of absolute frustration and disgust turned into a week of giving and blessings. Truthfully, this has been a true turning point in my life for the better.

My girlfriend (we'll call her Lady J) and I decided to do some volunteer work. I had gotten an email that a particular apartment complex needed help repairing apartments to rent. We got there around 8:30AM, and this man was going on and on about the Reunion Arena and how terrible the conditions were there. He broke down crying at the apartment complex, and we were like, “Dang Gina!”

You know me. I wanted to be in the midst of the action, and Lady J is about as crazy and passionate as I am when it comes to black folks. He must have thought we were some weaklings because we were all peppy looking. He told us not to go if we had weak stomachs or if we cry easily. Obviously, he didn't know that he was talking to two soldiers. We were like, “Mike Jones, baby.” Needless to say we spent our Saturday assisting the evacuees at the Arena. We had a great time, and we got to hear some very inspiring testimonies. (Remind me to tell the story of Zach and Marshall in a later blog.)

The next day, I helped out at the church for several hours doing the same thing I did at Reunion. That was so cool because I ran into Zach and Marshall again. Long story short, lady J and I finally went through our Red Cross training so we could actually go inside and visit with our new neighbors. (Interesting stories that I will have to share in a later log too.) We have been going out there in the evenings and on the weekend. It has truly blessed us.

I did want to let you know the feedback that I got was positive. I got a response back from all of the local networks and CNN. Basically, all of them felt that their coverage was not biased and informed me that they were not referring to victims as “refugees” but evacuees instead. I did notice the sudden change, so somebody of power must have called them to the carpet on it. As far as the looting, several of them expressed that their coverage of the looting was minimal compared to their coverage of the story as a whole. I chose to disagree, but I did send a final email to all those who responded thanking them for their time. All were receptive to my comments and said that I could write them any time. Also, I made a new friend with one lady from the local station. She was actually trying to help me find the boys I mentioned earlier. She is a believer in Christ and is truly dedicated to this cause.

I posted the follow up letter I sent to the stations if you're interested. I don't know if it was my email to them or Oprah putting them on blast about it, but the coverage did get a lot better. I'm sure it was Oprah though. I couldn't possibly have that much pull (not yet at least).

So, I guess my biggest take away from this adventure is to be a part of the solution and don't just gripe about the problem. In some kind of way find a way to make difference. It doesn't matter how big or small your actions are, but do not be afraid to stretch yourself. If your heart is in the right place, then you do not labor in vein. Also, make sure you have a road warrior with you who's as equally down for the cause as you are. Thanks Lady J.

Back onto the campaign trail,

Kidd Grown

O, Backbone Where art Thou?

2005-09-14T22:14:00.000-07:00

The question of the century is not “Who shot JR?” It is: Where is the backbone? Has anyone seen the backbone? You know, the spine that we were all born with. Not the physical one, but the gutsy one that the human eye cannot see, but boy you sure know when it's in the house. The one that tells you when it's time to shut somebody down. The one that makes you stand up for what is right. You know, a backbone - the one that separates the men from the boys. Have you seen it?

Of course this question stems from a series of conversations with girlfriends and just my general observations lately of men. I have reached the conclusion that something is fundamentally wrong with a lot men of today. They have no backbone. I don't know what happened to it. Did they forget to bring it home one day from school or were they just not born with it? I sure do miss it though. There's something about a brother who knows exactly who he is in Christ and isn't afraid to be that man. There's a level of respect that he commands when he enters the room. This is the type of man that no woman would have any problems submitting to. It's almost like the roles have flipped. You have a lot of pushy and controlling women and too many passive and timid men.

I just want to slap these dudes upside the head and say, “Don't you have an opinion? Boy, you'd better stand up for yourself.” Sometimes I get told that I male bash, and maybe I do sometimes. I know that's not my intent, but I'm just keeping it real. I love the male species. I think they are God's most fascinating creators. But, I just truly am concerned about them. I see too many boys dressed in men clothing. This is scary.

Sisters like for a man to get crunk every now and then. Or, we at least like to know that you can if you have to do so. (I'm not advocating ghetto-ness by any means, but you get my point.) Answer this for me? How are you going to lead a company successfully if you are scared? How are you going to cover your wife and family in prayer if you have to tip toe around their feelings? How are you going to meet a woman if you're sitting in the corner posted up acting shy? Men are created in the image of God, and the last time I checked my God was bold.

I know there are some men out there who can step up to the plate. Too many men today are strong physically, but mentally and spiritually they are lacking. This actually comes from an old strategy practiced by slave masters to maintain social order amongst the slaves. It was simple, and in some cases today, you can see us (men and women of color still acting it out). The males were raised to be strong physically for breeding purposes. However, just like a horse, they had to be tamed. The masters knew that a strong male slave could result in a powerful leader and potential slave revolt. Do you want a REVOLUTION???!!! Whoop, whoop!!!!

If you are a man reading this, it may not apply to you. But, I guarantee that you have at least one homeboy that it does apply to. Can you ask him to bring back the backbone? This world needs it. Our young black teens need it. And guess what, the sisters need it to. We need more vision. We need more passion. We need more action. We need more risk taking. We need more leadership. We need more MEN.

And ladies, if you have a good man - a real man - let him know, encourage him to lead and back him up 200% (if you aren't already doing so). And to all my brothers out there doing their thing and giving back to the community - we see you! Do yo' thang.

All hail to the Backbone!

Kidd Grown

What Katrina taught me this past week…

2005-09-08T09:43:00.000-07:00

1. Never doubt what God has spoken to you in quietness. Even when your senses tell you otherwise. Hold on to the peace that you have in your spirit and expect His confirmations.
2. Remember that someone always has it worse than you, so stop complaining.
3. Silent Christians can cause more harm to this world than the most wicked man.
4. If you have passion for something, act on it. What's the worse thing that will happen.
5. Whatever you do, do it with your whole heart like you are working for God and not man.
6. Volunteering does not mean standing around looking cute. It means rolling up your sleeves and getting in the ditches; putting yourself into the persons' shoes you are serving.
7. In all things, know that God is in control and everything works for His good.
8. A smile can change any situation into a good situation.
9. It is perfectly okay to cry for no reason. We know that angels catch our tears.
10. I am the apple of God's eye.
11. You don't have to give money to help someone. Time is the most precious gift.
12. Sometimes the truth is ugly, and we don't want to acknowledge it. But, acceptance is the first step to healing.
13. The poor are forgotten by man, but God remembers all.
14. If you ever have influence over anything, use it. It can be more powerful than the entire government.
15. Don't worry about being politically correct. Sometimes you have to just tell it like it is.
16. The things we think are important in life really aren't. What's most important is seeking and doing the will of God.
17. We can't add a single day to our lives by worrying. Jesus was right, or course.
18. Large groups of women can be friends without being jealous, envious or hateful toward each other.
19. Life is too short. Make sure you laugh everyday.
20. Praise and worship God everyday. In His presence there is glory and honor.

Mayor of New Orleans Speaks

2005-09-02T10:09:00.001-07:00

My friend forwarded this to me! I am so glad that she did. It is a a telephone interview with the Mayor of New Orleans. It is very moving and disturbing. Listen to the desperation in his voice.

http://www.airamericaradio.com/

Please, let’s do something y’all. Even as I have been on my computer all this morning, researching and writing, the devil has been busy. Trying to block me from doing what God put on my heart to do. My computer has been timing out. Programs suddenly quitting. The devil is a liar! He is defeated. You cannot stop me devil. You cannot stop God’s people. “Get behind us Satan! Ha. Ha. Ha. We are not afraid of you!

“The Lord is my light and my salvation. Whom shall I fear?”

“All things are possible for Him who believes.”

“No weapon formed against US shall prosper.”

“We are more than conquerors.”

“We are God’s workmanship. Created in the image of Christ Jesus to do good works that he has prepared in advance for us to do.”

“Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we will trust in the name of Lord our God.”

“Greater is he that is in me than he that’s in the world.”

“In you they trusted and were saved. In you they trusted and were not disappointed.”

“If you abide in me, and my word abides in you. Then you shall have whatever you ask.”

Mayor of New Orleans Speaks

2005-09-02T10:09:00.000-07:00

Katrina: Demand a Change

2005-09-02T08:52:00.000-07:00

Please forward this message along to as many people as you know. This is my little part to correct this injustice for what it is worth. I hope that you will get involved in some kind of way to help the victims, most of which are our people. Please take my call to action at the end of this post very seriously.

This is a wake up call to the world that the demonic spirit of slavery, racism and injustice still runs deep in the heart of America. Some wounds will never heal. In fact, they have reopened for such a time as this. Many of us black people have said this for years. We have experienced racism – maybe not getting called a nigger or being lynched, but the subtleness, lack of equality and other injustices have been voiced for years. Still nothing. Racism also involves the poor. There are many poor whites and others affected by this tragedy that are being forgotten as well.

I hope that some heads roll at the local, state and federal level!

The media focus is now turning toward violence. Again, perpetuating the same racism we have seen over the years on television of how blacks are depicted. I don’t care who you are. When you face extreme poverty, you are operating at the basic survival level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Truth is, we don’t know what we would do if we were in the same situation. How dare us to judge them. What we are witnessing is just a vivid picture of what has been going on for years, but the powers in charge have chosen to ignore. They see what they want to see. But now, you will see what we see EVERYDAY. A plea for justice. A plea for equality. If it were your people, this situation would be different. I am not advocating violence, but I do understand and sympathize with these people.

This is really pissing me off. I am sorry for the language. I heard references to people as “barbaric animals, thugs and hoodlums.” You have just as much violence every day in major cities across the US, especially within the suburbs. But why act so surprised now? The violence is not the point. It is only a symptom of a greater problem. Remember the Titanic: Out of their own arrogance, they ignored the iceberg beneath the water; they only saw the tip. The point is that people are dying and suffering in their own country. Where is the justice? Why are we so surprised that America has a “3rd World Country” right in its own backyard? The laws and policies of this nation have made it as such. These people have kicked into high-gear survival mode.

We have criminals everywhere – especially in the government and corporations who steal retirement money from their employees and abuse stockholders. And you want to focus on people who are stealing televisions? Now there is no excuse for rape, murder, etc. We must pray against these evil forces. These same reporters, politicians and just plain old haughty rich people have no problem coming to New Orleans to drink, strip in the streets, gamble, participate in voodoo and God knows what other kind of evil. But now, you want to sit on your cushy seat of judgment as if what these people are doing is even remotely worse than what you do for PLEASURE??? Please.

I was so glad to hear Matt Lauer this morning have the guts to say that if violence is being over-exaggerated, then we (media) should stop focusing on it. Thank you Lord for moving on his heart to speak the truth.

Doctors, lawyers, scientists, people with special gifts, should be fleeing to help these people. Oh, but that might inconvenience your checking account. All of these artists and professionals who make the majority of their money off of poor people, where are you now?

The military needs to be ashamed. You can put a man on the moon 40 some-odd years ago, but you can’t land a helicopter because of the violence? Please. These people are starving. They are desperate. They are lost. They do not know that help is on the way. Concerns about security are absurd. You can go into a foreign country and do your freaking job. Do it in America!!! You are the military. If you are afraid of civilians, then what the heck are you serving your country for? Fake an injury, get out and get a desk job! This is ridiculous. We do not want to hear about anymore planning.

It took an act of Mother Nature to show us that RACISM is here and must be stopped.

And another thing, let’s bug the heck out of the media to stop referring to our US citizens as “refugees”. I looked the word up last night. Webster defines refugee as “one that flees; especially: a person who flees to a foreign country or power to escape danger or persecution”. These are not refugees. They are Americans. This is the land of the free, but where are the brave?

God help us all. Here are some ideas of what we can do to help.

1. Pray without ceasing for God’s perfect will to be done on earth as it already is in heaven. Pray that justice will prevail and that healing will manifest in our land and in the lives of these victims. Pray that when the city is rebuilt, the evil spirits that lived there will not return. Rebuke them in the mighty name of Jesus.
2. Forward this email to everyone you know that will take some action.
3. If you have relatives that you can get in touch with, urge them to refrain from talking to the media about the violence. Let them know that this is what the news is choosing to focus on as their headline story. Urge them to plead for help and ask where is the government.
4. Call/e-mail the news and radio stations and demand that they stop focusing on the looting. Boycott them if you have to. Get your news from an outside source if you have to like BBC. Below is an e-mail or telephone script that you can use. Also, the contact information for all radio, news and papers in the Dallas area is below.
5. Whatever you do, be serious about it. If you do not see the change you are seeking, then boycott. Stop watching the news and go into prayer. Ask God to show you what is happening. Seek revelation from him. Again, refrain from patronizing newspapers, radio stations and television news that continue to perpetuate racism when they have power to really make a difference.

Some Contact Information

KDAF-TV, WB33
Newsroom Phone: 214.252.3333
Newsroom Email: wb33news@tribune.com

KDFW FOX 4
http://www.kdfwfox4.com/default.html

KTVT (CBS 11) (complete the form)
http://dallas.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbs11tv.com%2F

NBC5i
(817) 654 – 6300
news@nbc5i.com

WFAA-TV Channel 8 (complete the form)
214-748-9631
http://dallas.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.wfaa.com%2F

National News

CNN Headline news
http://www.cnn.com/feedback/hdlns

NBC
Today@NBC.com
Nightly@NBC.com
WebEditors@newsweek.com

ABC News
http://abcnews.go.com/Reference/story?id=54216

CBS News (go all the way to the bottom and click on “Contact Us”
http://www.cbsnews.com/sections/home/main100.shtml

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Hello:

My name is ______________________. I am a citizen of the state of _________ and a proud citizen of the United States of America. I am a taxpayer, and I earn an honest living to support my family. I am writing to ask you to stop focusing your headline coverage of Katrina on the looting and violence. Also, I stand with millions of Americans and ask that you stop referring to these people as “refugees”. I looked the word up last night. Webster defines refugee as “one that flees; especially: a person who flees to a foreign country or power to escape danger or persecution”. These are not refugees. They are Americans.

I am beyond words to describe News __ attempt to focus on the non-important elements of this tragedy. There are people dying! You are educated people, can you not see that this is the real issue? President Bush is correct. “This is unacceptable.”

Rather you intend to or not, your current method of coverage is further perpetuating negative images of Black people in America. You have done this over the years by your attempts to mostly focus on violence when it comes to African-Americans. I urge you to do stories that will compel all local citizens (rich and poor, black and white, Christians and non-Christians) to come together on one accord to help out. We are not barbarians. We are not slaves. We are not thugs. We are people who want the same American dream that you do, and we are entitled to it – just as you are.

I am requesting that you shift your spotlight to the lack of government support and aid, the silence of the Hollywood community and lack of fundraising, the lack of international support, the huge disparity between 9-11, Tsunami and Katrina relief and finally the fact that thousands of our US citizens are being treated inhumanely right in their own country. Along those lines, please make every attempt to highlight all of the positive efforts that are going on around the world to help Katrina victims.

If you do not respond to my request, I will continue to flood your email inbox and voice mail with this same message. I will also encourage all of my friends and family to do so too. I will boycott your organization and will instead choose to receive my information from another non-biased source. Again, I will encourage all those I know to do so as well.

Please choose to make a difference. Please choose to go against the tendency to do what you have always done. I pray that God will richly bless you if you do so. This is the land of the free, but where are the brave?

I hope that News _____ is part of the brave.

Sincerely,

Your name

If One more person SCRATCH What in the world is up with gay black men?

2005-08-31T22:16:00.000-07:00

Disclaimer: These are my personal opinions that I am entitled to. I am a believer in Jesus Christ and believe in accepting people (not sin) for who they are. But this mess is out of control!!! (I apologize in advance for the grammar too. I’m pretty upset right now.) Shoot, when I meet a guy now this is going to become one of my new screening questions. “Are you saved? Do you go to church? Do you have a job? Have you ever been incarcerated? Are you currently or ever have been gay?” Think I’m playing…watch.

Brothers – what is really going on? Every time I look up another one of you has turned gay on me. Did the sista’s go out of style or something and nobody told us about it. Did we get shut down ladies? Was there a “sistas are going out of style” announcement in the Sunday ad section? I mean, what? You are lucky that I am saved now. I feel like using some other words to express my discontentment with the current issue.

(I’m not neglecting white people either, but remember the purpose of this site is to address “issues affecting black folks.) Now, where was I? Oh yeah, this ain’t right. Are y’all feeling me? I hope you can hear the passion in my voice. We have to do something about this. It seems like something is in the water. So many brothers are either on the down low (DL) or straight up gay.

How do you get gay anyway, ‘cause I sure don’t believe that you’re born that way. I am not buying that phony-bologna. That is an excuse to justify your lifestyle choice. Religion aside, naturally by design – this just ain’t right. You chose to be gay. It’s just like any other sin, okay. If you entertain any temptation of evil over a period of time (just tiny thought) eventually, you will become what you’ve been thinking about. Do you think people are born as murderers, liars, adulterers. I think not. At some point, a person chooses to become what they are, just like highly successful people choose to be successful. It basically equates to thoughts becoming habits, habits becoming character and character becoming destiny. So stop thinking about testing the “gay” waters before you end up diving in.

And then here come these DL brothers, like they’re so cool and above being gay. Oh God, where on earth did this mess come from? They have the audacity to say they aren’t gay. NEGRO please. CLUE 4 U: You are a homosexual. If you are ashamed, then don’t be doing it. Right?

Perhaps the reason that so many single black women are having a hard time finding a black man is because we are losing them to other gay men (or white women, but that’s a whole ‘nother story. And yes, I will go there. I am not a racist, but very much of a realist. Don’t worry. I’ll explain my position later on this so I don’t hurt nobody’s feelings.). You do the math. Two black gay men as a couple = two less black women with a potential mate. One gay couple = two potential marriages that will never happen. How sad is that? That means potentially six children will never be born and God knows how many generations will be shortened. All because someone could not control their thoughts and gave into their flesh.

I was in a nice part of dallas last night with my girlfriend. We went to see a movie. When we came out of the theatre, I was floored. We saw so many black gay couples out. These weren’t some busted looking men either. I mean, they were very attractive. This one guy could have been a model. I started to take a picture of him so I could post it just to illustrate my point of how crazy this picture was. Here we are two beautiful, God-fearing, fun, single and intelligent women hanging out, and here he is chilling with his two partners. What’s up with that? A good man gone to waste. I am so not ready for this to be a societal norm.

I am literally at a loss for words of how depressing this really is. It is so NOT cute. Brothers come back!!!

All I have to say is this, “Submit yourselves then unto God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7) this works for anybody struggling with temptation. And now all of these celebrities are coming out. People we grew up listening to on the radio are now gay. Now I KNOW they weren’t gay back then. Something happened. Is it because they’ve tried everything else so they want to experiment with something to medicate their pain?

I really am confused. I hope I don’t sound judgmental. I’m not. If anything I am mad at the sin.

If you are reading this, please add this to your prayer list. We need to attack the enemy and break this stronghold. This is a demonic spirit that is spreading quickly throughout our race. And I’m not forgetting about the lesbian sisters. What in the heck is that all about? We need to pray. Pastors need to start dealing with this too. I’m not advocating a call to be a bigot or judger, but as the church we have to take a stand against these attacks on God’s foundation of man’s existence – procreation.

Well, I didn’t talk about what I thought I would, but I had to get this off of my chest.

Not much of a Kidd tonight,

Grown

Kidd Grown’s Top 10 List of Black People who are Trapped in a White Person’s Body

2005-08-27T19:21:00.000-07:00

Here it is! I think these people were born into the wrong race, or somebody in the family was dipping and dapping (if you know what I mean). They just have a little too much soul.

Kidd Growns Top 10 List of Black People who are Trapped in a White Person's Body.

10. Michael Bolton (He's been out of the loop for a while, but he can still blow.)
9. Eminem (He's ghetto fabulous in a Caucasian kind of way. I think he really wants to be black for real. Poor thing.)
8. Michael McDonald (He is the first white man that I can recall confusing me when I heard him sing. "A white man sings that song??? I will never forget when I first saw him on Soul Train. "I Keep Forgetting...")
7. Mark Wahlberg (Four Brothers brought out the old Markie Mark. You can tell he grew up in somebody's hood.)
6. Tina Marie (She's a little out there, but she can sing. I'm gonna need her to update her wardrobe though.)
5. Jesse Duplantis (There's nothing else to say. He is black.)
4. Bonnie Raitt (Give 'em something to talk about girl. Her songs are perfect when you want to wallow in your sorrow. Great blues music. "I can't make you love me...if you don't." Umm. That is DEEP!)
3. Daryl Hall and John Oats (Since they are a group, they count as one. John had a pseudo-afro too.)
2. Bill Clinton (Okay, Bill busted out with the saxophone at every party. I'll bet he owns a set of dominoes that he keeps in a Crown Royal bag.)
1. Harry Connick, Jr. (This is one bad white boy. Anybody who can make you bump a Christmas CD like it's the latest track, is worthy of the number one spot.)

Am I right about it though?

The Kidd

My favorite Momma Story. Share Yours.

2005-08-27T19:01:00.000-07:00

For the record, to this day my momma still denies this entire story. As if I have any legitimate reason whatsoever to make this whole thing up 22 years ago and still stick to it today. I think she’s embarrassed, but this is one of my greatest memories of my momma’s love for me. Even though at the time, I wanted to build a spaceship and soar to Mars to live out the rest of my days. You’ll see why.

Do you remember field day or play day? It was the day when all the kids in the school got to play competitive games against other classes. It was so much fun because you got to go outside all day and do nothing but play. Well, it was play day and Kidd Grown was in the 1st grade. I had on a yellow jumper and my favorite pair of tennis (Pro Wings, I’m sure of it.)

I was always a fast runner. I could beat all the girls and boys in the first grade. I was so excited about play day because this was my chance to show the entire school how close to the speed of light I actually was. I had dreamt about it all week. Anyway, this story isn’t about me running, but I have to build up to the climax of the story by painting a mental picture of how excited I was about the greatest day of my life.

Now, we were poor growing up so I never really had what the other kids had. This bothered me sometimes because my momma always bused us to predominately white schools, and those kids had everything or at least I thought they did. I was never jealous of white kids, but they did have one thing that I secretly coveted. No it wasn’t their hair, skin color or nice house. It was their lunch boxes. They always had a cool lunch box – The Muppets, StarWars, The A Team, Charlie Brown, Garfield. You know? I wanted a lunchbox so bad I didn’t know what to do. (this is going somewhere, I promise)

Not only that, but they always had cool, nutritious lunches. I was on free lunch, so I always had to eat the cafeteria food, but I had always dreamed of one day brining my own lunch. They would have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, fruit, those little Frito-Lay bags of chips and a Capri Sun. Wow! What a life.

Anyway, I’m still getting hype over play day not only because I was about to show out, but also because the cafeteria was closed so everyone had to bring a lunch that day. You do not understand. This was my chance to finally carry a lunch box or brown sack and pull out my little white meal.
I took the letter home to my momma believing that she knew what the deal was – go out and buy your daughter a lunchbox and fix her lunch exactly like the white kids. I mean, duh. Didn’t she know how big of a deal this was?

Anyway, didn’t happen. Momma must have been so stressed out because she totally forgot to even get me a lunch. That morning she told me that she would bring my lunch to school. I thought how cool that would be. Not only was I going to run fast, but I was going to have the lunch of my dreams delivered to me. Finally lunch came. Our class was in the lead, but the relay races weren’t until after lunch. We all went in, and everyone pulled out their lunches. That day we got to eat in our own classrooms. (Thank God.)

My momma hadn’t showed up yet. I was getting worried, and everyone including the teacher started offering me some of their lunch. Being the shy and modest kid that I was, I denied their generous offers. I knew that my momma would come through. Low and behold, she appeared in the door. My smile went from ear to ear. But then, I noticed something that wasn’t right. Slowly, my smile began to dwindle back to its original position.

It was a familiar object that I had seen before. But, never quite used the way I expected that it was being used at this particular time. To my recollection, I always remembered it carrying groceries or being shaken vigorously to coat pork chops in flour before frying. Why in the heck did momma have a grocery sack? This wasn’t a small brown bag either like the one I had wanted. This was a full-size grocery sack! As I looked closer, it even had the grocery store name on the side, UNITED Supermarket. I could not believe it.

My teacher welcomed my mom into the room and to my seat. She looked so proud, but she was in a rush so she had to suddenly leave. I didn’t really pay attention to her because I was still trying to figure out what in the heck was a brown UNITED sack doing in her hands. Ooh, no-no. Are those grease stains? Yes. No she didn’t. She got one of the sacks that she stored in between the oven and refrigerator. I recognize those stains from anywhere.

All of the kids turned and looked at me when she left. It was so synchronized. My teacher, for some strange reason, was so eager to help me unpack my lunch. The first thing she pulled out was a jar. Jar, J-A-R, jar. As a matter of fact, it was a Miracle Whip jar with the label half-way pealed off. Inside the jar, was some ice-cold pink Cool-Aid. Are you kidding me? Cool-Aid on play day? What happened to my Capri Sun?

The next sight was the killer. Out came a large plate sealed with Reynolds Wrap heavy duty foil paper. It was not a Tupperware type plate with compartments, but one of those old plates that your momma still has in her cabinet. The one that has no mates to it. This was the ugly brown plate that none of my siblings and I ever wanted to eat off of. I don’t even know why we still had that stupid plate in our house anyway.

What happened to the sandwich bags? By this time the entire hallway could smell the aroma of my lunch. Everyone was standing over me as my teacher unveiled my lunch. It was some Hickory smoked sausage (fried of course. We didn’t have a grill back then.), green beans, sweet corn and a Mrs. Baird’s dinner roll. THIS WAS NOT LUNCH! This was dinner.

My teacher made the dumbest statement I had ever heard her make, “Ooh, I’m jealous. Everyone, Saki has a good lunch. See children.” She was trying to be funny. I know she was. She knew that wasn’t right. I was so embarrassed. How was I supposed to eat this and then run the race of my life? (I told you this would all come together.)

I’m not going to lie. The food was good, but I didn’t finish it. I was too mad. Needless to say, I didn’t run the race of my life. I came in second place. I had too much grease in my belly, I guess. I didn’t get my moment of coolness with the white kids that day either. It was just another day filled with a series of misfortunate events. Momma tried though.

Now, I’ve put my story out there. What about you?

Charlie Brown,

Kidd Grown

President Bush: does the blood cover him?

2005-08-27T17:42:00.000-07:00

For real y’all. I think something is up with this. It seems like no matter how much people hate him and protest against him, none of their weapons are harming him. In fact, it seems like those who try to attack him, something bad ends up happening to them instead.

Things that make you go hmm. So, I quit talking bad about him.

I hope that we will all join together to pray for all of our leaders regardless if we like them or not. I think the presidents from here on out will only get worse anyway as the end of time nears.

Just a thought. Has anyone else noticed this? Or, am I over thinking the issue?

Momma Don't Play

2005-08-26T19:08:00.000-07:00

Ooh...

This is classic and a true picture of how creative Black mamma's can be when thinking of punishment. A friend sent this to me today, and I forwarded it to my line sisters. We clowned all day off of this. This is my prayer: For the "real" mommas out there to rise again. This momma is so serious about not losing her son to the streets that she had to teach him. I'm including an excerpt from our email strings. Hope you enjoy our commentary. Pictures can truly tell a story. Even though our momma experiences are so diverse, it sounds like all Black mommas have one thing in common - a very unique form of humorous, but firm discipline. What do you hear momma saying?

Kidd Grown

---EMAIL----
Oh my Lord, and no she is not chillin' with a chair and some Kool-Aid! That's tight though--I love it. :) And now that I'm really thinking about it, I'm sure she made him make his own sign! Can't you just see her cussin' at him and making him make that sign.

You know she talked trash the whole time. I'm sure that he's hearing something like this:

"See. Umm. Hmm. You gon learn one way or the other. I don told you about stealing, but naw. You wanna try me. That's alright. I got something for you. What? I thought I heard you say something. Betta not. And straighten your face up. Don't be trying to look all sad now. You shoulda thought about that when you took yo' butt to the sto' with no money in the first place! I outta whip you tale. You lucky I'm tired."

I can just hear my mom(and so many others) saying all of that. I'm telling you what a better world this would be if more parents took this approach!

The more I look at this picture, the louder she gets. You know some people would say this is child abuseHumiliationion. P-leeze!!! I'll be his butt won't steal no mo'.

The last line on his poster says it all. "I want to go prison like daddy." His mama is not playing with his behind! And yes, I too can hear that beat down.

Should you laugh when people trip or fall? I just did.

2005-08-26T10:07:00.000-07:00

I know that you've seen somebody trip before and almost crack their skull, but have you ever heard it and not seen it? That is even more hysterical than watching it! Imagine this. You can hear a person get up and start walking with a swift pace (light footsteps). All of a sudden, you hear the pace skip a couple of beats. Like "da-da-du-duh-da." You know that they almost fell because the footsteps are heavier and faster. Then they come to a slower pace than before as if the person's trying to be careful. That person is probably thanking God that nobody saw it all go down. Got a secret though: Nothing gets past Kidd Grown!

Anyway, I just witnessed this and had to share. I am over here dying in my cubicle. I know it's not right to laugh at people when they trip or fall, but you have to admit that secretly you laugh too. Let it out.

LOL!!!!!!!!

The Queen of Tripping and Falling,
Kidd Grown

Mark Cuban is off the Chain!

2005-08-24T12:22:00.000-07:00

Blogging is the future of liberation for the masses from the media. Mark Cuban is one of the few celebrities to ever dare to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth regardless of the repercussions. Check out his blog. He keeps it real. http://www.blogmaverick.com

He's at it again. Check out this odd-twist of a tale a reporter made into a NY Times headliner about Mark. Once you read the email exchange between Mark and the reporter, and then read the article that was printed, you will be blown away. The media will sensationalism everything and some reporters have premeditated motives before they even run a story.

We used to sing a song in church when I was a little girl. It said, "Be careful little ears what you hear." Everything you read in the paper or see on the news isn't true. If you want a more non-biased view of what's happening, try BBC News instead of CNN or MSNBC.

How to Approach a Female at Church 101

2005-08-24T07:02:00.000-07:00

I wanted to address the question raised by Nikki. Great question by the way. Hope this helps fellas.

I really don't know what's up with the brothas’approach at church. Someone needs to offer them a class or something since this appears to be a widespread epidemic across the nation. I will offer my advice this one time only to the male masses. Kidd Grown’s training program shut down two years ago when I noticed that all the guys I give advice to or date seem to marry someone else. Hmm? I will, however, offer my services as a modern day Ms. Hitch to my closest guy friends.

I kind of feel bad for them because I know that some are very sincere when they see an attractive woman at church and just want to get to know her. So brothas, read closely.

Tip #1) I still think the best way to get to know people is through serving God and doing activities that you normally do. It gives you the chance to interact with different types of people as well as learn how your "VIP (very interesting person)" works with others. Instead of spending so much one on one time brothers, try asking the sister what ministry or hobbies she's involved with. Get to know her in a group setting. You might not like what you see after all.

Tip #2) Fellas, you've got to learn how to ask around too. This means you need to get a life and expand your circle. Remember the Kevin Bacon game where you can always get back to Kevin Bacon from any movie. Somebody always knows somebody who knows somebody, etc., etc. Check with your homies (people you trust though) what's up with a particular female. Don’t try to get all in her Cool-Aid though. Just the basics – how long has she been a member, where does she serve, who does she hang out with at church, what is her profession and what are some of her interests. You can make a decision to advance or retreat just by this initial investigation. A good three minutes well spent.

Tip #3) Guys, it's always good to have at least one good “girl” friend. She can come in handy in giving you some pointers on your approach. Practice with her. If she’s your friend, she’ll tell you the truth. Show her your interest from a distance. Women can read other women a whole lot better then men can. If you have a God-fearing female friend who you know is NOT a hater, ask her for her initial impressions. Also, she might have some connections and can get the skinny on your love interest. We have our ways of getting information. I do this regularly for my guy friends. We need to learn how to look out for each other. For example, one of my guy friends was interested in this lady at church. He showed her to me, and I let him know that I didn’t think she was his type. I described to her a situation where I had personally witnessed her going off on someone. I also was able to share with him another occasion where I had witnessed this woman acting very inappropriately at a professional function. Now, she was cute and had a nice body. She goes to church every week, but I wasn’t comfortable giving my boy a good report about her. I told him to proceed with caution if that’s what he wanted to do.

Tip #4) Focus on being friends with the lady in the truest since of the word. You'll never know where that friendship could lead. If it doesn't go anywhere, then at least you didn't waste your money on dates and get your heart broken because you thought she was “the one”. Some of the most successful marriages today started out as friendships where neither person was “romantically” interested in the other.

Tip #5) I think if you see a girl on a regular basis at church, you've made eye contact with her and she's dropping you a clue that it's okay to speak--then what in the heck are you waiting for? The burning bush is history. Repeat after me brothas, “Women like to be noticed and pursued (pursue does not equal stalk, okay).” It is flattering. Chances are she could've noticed you too. Don't be timid and shy. That is not attractive. I repeat: that is not attractive. If you want to win a woman's hand, you have to do what it takes to show that you are worthy. Be yourself though. You are a performance driven creator by design, so don’t be coming all weak for the greatest challenge of your life.

If she thinks you are interesting, then she'll give you the right hints to assist you. But, do not expect her to nurse you through pursuing her. She'll think that you are weak. I'm just being real here! And if you so happened to get rejected, remember, “I’m Mike Jones, baby!” You are the bomb my beautiful black brother…NEXT!

The Big Kahuna. The tip of all tips. The manna from the sky. Are you ready, brother?

Tip #6) If you want a job, you go after it. If you want a car a house, you save for it. If you play sports or games, you play to win don't you? So you practice and you focus on the victory. It's not rocket science...do the same thing to win your woman!!! That’s it. I could be way off base, and I’m not scared to be shut down either. This is my site, so watch out there now!

“That will be $250 for my 1-hour consulting fee please,”

Kidd Grown

Part II: If one more person asks me why I’m still single.

2005-08-23T13:22:00.000-07:00

Before you read any further I need to define a very important term here. Boaz - my ram in the bush, my soul mate, the one who is specifically called to me by God, and the one that I am waiting on.)

I hope I didn’t come down too hard in my last post about being single. Being married is way cool, and if you happen to marry young (less than 25) that’s perfectly A-okay. That’s just not my tale. I know plenty of married people who wish they that were single or wish they had waited longer before marriage. On the other hand, I know plenty of married people who married young and are extremely happy. So go figure! Believe me; I look very forward to meeting and spending the rest of my days with Boaz. The divorce rate is too high for people to rush into marriage. Shoot, looking back, I didn’t know what the heck I was doing in my twenties. I was still trying to figure out how to get to work at the same time everyday and how to develop a consistent prayer life.

In the meantime, God has placed a burning passion within me to pray for Boaz and to speak blessings over his life. If you are single, this is a good habit to start practicing. Start covering his finances (cause a sista can’t be broke), his career, his vision, wisdom, etc. whatever you feel in your spirit to pray for him, just do it. I’m sure that he’ll appreciate it later, and this will get you into the routine of doing so once you get married. I look forward to Mr. Right, but right now, I am focusing on becoming Mrs. Right.

Not everything will be perfect, but at least I will have a great start. I know so many people who have gotten married too young and are struggling or are divorced…and these are Christians. I was taught by Bishop Eddie Long that we should try to be assets not liabilities to our life partners. That means when Boaz adds me to his portfolio, the value of it should increase. Not talking about the spiritual things only, but portfolio encompasses his health, spiritual walk, emotions, mentality, finances, etc. Now, that’s being value-added. (BTW, he should increase the value of my stock as well.)

Paul talked about advantages to both married and single life. We all have to be happy in our current state. Paul who was speculated to have been married at one point in his life was a dynamic single. So was Jesus. Paul wrote half of the New Testament and Jesus was the savior of the world. Now, neither of them would’ve accomplished anything great if they had focused so much of their time and energy on being married. Instead, they were about their father’s business.

Personally, I’m learning that single life is my time to devote to the work of God and take risks – personal, financial and career. Paul was on point when he said that the single’s focus is on God, while the wedded person’s focus is on pleasing the spouse. Now that I am a little older, I know that I probably might not have gone back to school, moved to another across the US, quite my plushy corporate job to start a business, change my investment strategy, and volunteer 20+ hours a week. I’m not saying that these can’t be done by the married person, but I am being realistic. Additionally, the thing I enjoy most about being single is just having time to think and rest whenever I feel like it.

We trust God with everything else, but it is so funny how we don’t trust him with two things usually – money and finding a mate for us. For these two topics, we feel that we have to tell him what needs to be done.

Before I get too carried away, what is your take on singleness? I do want to share some things that I’ve been doing and have done while waiting for Boaz - some things that have worked and haven’t worked too well. You know what they say, “Good things come to those who wait.”

Single, young, fabulous and expecting,

Kidd Grown

Don't Be Scared: The Spirit of Fear

2005-08-23T01:47:00.000-07:00

Good morning,

It's 4AM, and I cannot sleep. I am excited about something, but I don't know what it is??!! I thought I would share this testimony I shared with my linesisters two years ago in an email. It was when I was applying to business school, and I had just been accepted. It was a dark time in my life, but looking back, it was a time of great faith and supernatural favor. I hope this blesses you to believe that God can do "exceeding, abundantly above all you can ask or think!" Just ask Him. One of my linesisters told me to save my testimonies, and that was the best piece of advice I had ever received. Thank you my sister for your words of encouragement. Sometimes you might think that no one hears you, but your voice is your greatest gift. Keep on talking.

I encourage you to share a personal testimony today with someone who needs it. If you don't have one, forward this to them. Don't let this day go by without sharing the goodness of God.

Still trusting,

Kidd Grown

Original E-testimony - Saturday, July 23, 2003, 5:00 PM

Hello,

Just wanted to let you guys know that I'll be attending SMU/Cox School of Business beginning in the fall 2003. I will be focusing on marketing and entrepreneurship and am very excited. God is so full of grace! At first, I was afraid that I wouldn't get far because I had an average GMAT and all right, undergrad GPA. Then I thought, that was the old Saki. This is saved, sanctified, fully aware of who she is, God fearing, persistent, demon chasing Saki. The interviewer called me back the next day and told me that they were excited to have me join the program. She said that she was very impressed with my experience and motivation. Now, I don't know if this was standard procedure for them to call you back enthusiastically (I thought I would get a letter in the mail), but I was like, "Go Jesus." I'm not just talking about the merciful savior, lamb of God. I'm talking about the lion!!! How dare I limit God's plan to such silly thoughts. I started casting down every thought that was against God's word and started professing his truths.

If you are struggling with something that you are making a decision about here are a few tips that helped me:

1. Pray consistently "without ceasing"--in your head at work, in the car, in the bathroom, whenever you feel led, have a conversation with God. He loves for us to "diligently seek him". This doesn't have to be over spiritualized, but it really helps you affirm the promises of God. You might feel weird, so don't tell everyone what you're doing b/c they will call you weird. It's between you and him. Things I asked for--wisdom, patience, increase in my faith in Him.

2. Be prepared to change something about yourself. Usually when you are asking God for something specific, you discover things about you. What kind of person am I? How will I act if I receive this "thing"? What are my motives? Why do I want it? This can be liberating, but it will also reveal many ugly parts. But as the Holy Sprit reveals these impurities, be thankful that God loves you enough to show you what to fix about you. Start working on them immediately (it's warfare--the enemy doesn't want you to grow better, but sometimes get further with the same issues) As you begin to seek God about deliverance from whatever it is, you are proving maturity and the ability to get more "food" and not "milk" from Him. Remember in 1 John 5, we are told, "that whatever we ask will be given because we keep His commands and desire to do what is pleasing to him." How can you do what is pleasing if you don't know what is unpleasing?

3. Praise God in advance, not with just lipservice, but in your actions. I've heard this so many times. I thought it meant jumping up in down in church or shouting AMEN and hallelujah at the end of my prayers. Yes, praise God in your prayer life and at church. Yes, it can look like this, but what it means is summed up with not being double-minded. Don't be going around complaining, or professing doubt about the very thing you're believing God for. Show him that you expect his blessings. Act like you have it, even though you don't yet. When you feel that burning desire rising up, or joy that you can't explain, or find yourself laughing at something when nothing is funny. I've learned that my spirit is aware of something that my mind doesn't know yet. It is an immovable peace that only comes from above. Praise God out of that. Many people can't praise God this way because they are too independent on self. But if you're like me and need a whole lot of help all of the time from God, this word is for you.

4. Be prepared to receive a word from God. Sometimes this means removing yourself from the familiar--television, friends, significant other, telephone, etc. Hard to do, but it works. If you haven't gone through isolation yet, it might be around the corner. At some point in our spiritual walk with Christ, we will be led away from the familiar. He was, so why wouldn't you? (This is hard, especially if you are a people person, which I am not so it was a little easier for me.) You start feeling inadequate, weird and outlawed. Don't worry, it's not you. It's God. Be clear about one thing. It is one thing for God to isolate you and another for you to isolate yourself. It will only last for as long as it takes for you to "get the message". Think of all the great stories in the Bible, Christ, John, Abraham, Joseph, Jonah, Job, etc. In isolation, I've learned to hear God's voice vs. Saki's voice of reason. The word you receive during this time will be the bomb because you got it with little confusion or distractions. Proverbs 3:5

5. Don't go by "sight" but by "spirit". We are in the matrix ladies. What we see is not the full story. God sees us totally differently then how we see us. He knew us from the beginning and he knows us even after we leave this earth (if you know Jesus). Don't limit your view of you to the way the world sees/labels you. Even if you don't know how God sees you, stand firm on the fact that it isn't based on the world's view. One minute people yelled "Hosanna" and the next they yelled "Crucify him!" Titles, performance, awards, etc. will jack up your thinking. I'm a witness to it. All good and perfect gifts come from God. He deserves all the Glory!

6. Be sure to testify to someone else and not be prideful or shamed of your blessing. God loves for us to brag on Him. This is awkward, because we aren't usually taught to do things like this. People might think we're cocky or arrogant. Yes, they will if your bragging sounds includes excessive use of the word, "I, me, my or mine". Yes, share what you did in your faithfulness. Our experiences and actions help others to grow spiritually. But remember, Jesus said to "let your light shine before all men, so that they might glorify Saki Lynette Milton???" No, "your Father in heaven!" It's time for the true believers to come out of the closet. When our coworkers ask, "There's something different about you." or "How do you do it?", use those opportunities to minister without shoving religion down someone's throat. In gentleness, you can share the Gospel so people won't be offended. I started doing this with one of my coworkers, and now she tells me stuff like, "God works in mysterious ways." People who don't even believe will be happy for you, and this opens opportunities to build trust and someday share with them the Good News.

10. Seek godly counsel. (Psalm 1) I can't say enough about this. Don't be asking random folks at your job about what you should do. More than likely, they'll give you worldly counsel. They just don't know any better. Also, don't be asking people you know who don't pray and don't have a relationship with God to pray for you. God hears the cries of the righteous. I'm not trying to be funny, but this is true. Ask the right people to support you. Yeah, I ask folks at my job for their opinion about something's. But always evaluate input from everybody back to the word. When I asked for prayer for my nephew, I intentionally asked people who I knew would pray. And y'all know the rest of the story about how God turned that whole situation around. He's now has a job building computers and plans to attend the University of Houston after graduation and study business. Go Woodie!!! Your prayers for other people work. :-)

I'm through. I just had to e-testify for a second.

Bye!

2008 Presidential Election: Oprah vs. Hillary

2005-08-19T14:43:00.000-07:00

I know that Oprah isn't running, but boy if she was..that would be the bombalicious election of all times! I wouldn't know which campaign to join. Here's my breakdown on how both women compare to each other.

Non-Presidential Related Issues that are equally as important (according to women)

Best Wardrobe: Oprah
Best Evening Gown: Oprah. Did you see her in that red Vera Wang at her Legends Ball
Best Party at the Whitehouse: Oprah. Turning 50 will never be the same.
Most Likely to Win the Hearts of the People: Oprah. She's been poor, rich, fat, skinny, abused, black, white (well they count her as one)
Best Presidential Speech: Oprah
Best Interior Designing of the Whitehouse: Oprah

Presidential Related Issues:

Affirmative Action: Tie
Civil Rights: Tie
Crime: They'd probably share the same view
Preservation of the Family: Oprah (my guess)
Economic improvement: Hilary
Education: Oprah, hands down (remember the teacher hookup. You win a car! You win a car!)
Foreign Policy: Hilary, but Oprah would clean up some stuff in the motherland.
Court System: Neither (they are both too liberal in my opinion)
Gun Control: Tie
National Debt: Oprah. She could finance it from her personal wealth
Social Security Reform: Yeah Right!!!
Homeland Security: Hilary. Bill is cool with everybody around the world.
Gas Prices: Yeah right. How would either of them know what the gas prices are? They have chauffeurs.
Home Ownership: Tie.

Okay, so Oprah would win according to my vote. Hilary is our closest bet to getting a sister into the Whitehouse. (Unless Ms. Rice decides to run.) Now that would be interesting! No offense to our past distinguished presidents, but a woman in the whitehouse = get stuff done the right way the first time around.

Reporting live from capital hill (well not exactly),
Kidd Grown

Can secular artists be gospel artists too? The Kanye E-Debate

2005-08-19T14:26:00.000-07:00

This came from an e-conversation I had with some of my closest girlfriends after the BET Awards show. What do you think? Is there a right or wrong answer to this question? We will certainly see more of this debate in the future as the day comes.

Initial Statement from Me:
Why was Konye West nominated for Best Gospel album???!!!!

Friend’s Response:
What is really the problem with Kanye and SOME other secular music artists worshipping God and having secular albums? I know what the standard arguments will be, but really how many people avoid sin totally? You understand that if you say all or nothing how many people turn away from God and Christianity because true legalism is intimidating as it seems virtually unattainable.

I guess I can relate because I LOVE God, I love praising him and could shout right now just thinking about all he is doing and has done for me. Even still I like to and listen to secular music, and I don't realistically think I'll be giving either up anytime soon so does that mean I am not allowed to go to church and raise my hands to God?

All in all I like Kanye's effort because he never has claimed to be perfect, but he is relating in song and in life the paradox that most everyone juggles God vs. World. For by Grace are you saved, it is a gift of God; not of works, lest any man should boast. Ephesians 2: 8-9 (Thank God for the gift of grace because if I had to earn it I would be in BIG trouble)

Other friend’s response:
I understand what you're saying. Don't get me wrong, “Jesus Walks” is a powerful song and Kanye's other songs are on the tame side, but with all the really great gospel artists, I just don't see how he could be nominated for best gospel artist. If it was truly a Christian rap album, then cool.

I mean, I know none of us are perfect but I think there are some things that just aren't of God...and I think there's a difference between trying to follow God and falling short because of our human nature and intentionally indulging in worldliness to come up in life. For me, I really can't understand it when rappers with sexually explicit albums or cursing and everything else on it, get up there and credit God for what they're doing. God is so totally not about those things. And some people say, oh well I'm just being real so I can reach out to folk but I really don't think God needs the help of all that sex, violence and cursing to reach and change someone.

When it comes down to it, people have to make choices...you're either light or dark, you serve God or you serve Satan, etc. When it comes time for judgment, there's no in between but you'd never know that from what a lot of these celebrities show us.

My Final Response:
We have to think about those who don't know Christ at all. If they see us acting a fool like that, that is what they will believe our faith is all about. It will have no substance and we will continue to be a weak church full of wishy-washy saints who have no real power. None of us are close to being perfect, and we are not saying that you earn salvation. That is a gift like you said. If you sincerely believe in Jesus Christ and confess him, you are born again.

However, most Christians bypass the next step of our salvation - sanctification. The bible speaks just as much about sanctification as it does salvation. Today, people don't want to hear that. "We are justified by our works and not faith alone." Our works should be the evidence of our faith. When Paul (a murderer and persecutor of the church) got saved, he put up his old ways and used his zeal and passion to become one of the most significant persons of all time. He still struggled. Remember, "The things I don't want to do, I do and the things I want to do, I don't do them." But, he was committed to not letting his flesh deceive or hurt others. Rather we like it or not, Christians in public positions have a greater burden. You are influencing hundreds and thousands of souls, and if they are Christians, they will not take that calling lightly as any of us should.

We can discern Kanye's message because we know the truth. But think about an unbeliever, someone who had never heard God's word or understood anything about Jesus. If he/she went out and bought that album, chances are that person would be confused about our faith because of the mixed messages. Now, if I bought it, it wouldn't bother me because I can discern what he is trying to say.

I am not judging him, just calling out the truth based on God's word. I do the same thing to myself, so I won't be a hypocrite. There is a psalm or proverb that says, "Out of the mouth flows the issues of the heart." (What we talk about and do the most is who we truly are.) I am not perfect by any means, so please don't think I'm advocating judgment. What I do advocate is the truth even more as it applies to my own life. I'm just trying to point out that we should love one another enough to say what is right and wrong based on God's word.

So to all the artists out there...stop confusing the gospel!!!

Do Not Call List

2005-08-18T20:09:00.000-07:00

Okay,

It would be selfish for me not to pass this along. One of my friends forwarded it to me. If you are sick and tired of being harassed in the privacy of your own home or car, please get on the list.

"JUST A REMINDER: On Sept. 1, CELL PHONE numbers are being released to telemarketing companies and you will start to receive sale calls. YOU WILL BE CHARGED FOR MINUTES OF THESE CALLS. To prevent this, call the following number from your cell phone: 888-382-1222. It is the National DO NOT CALL list. It will only take a minute of your time. It blocks your number for five (5) years.

Happy blocking,

Kidd Grown

The sun is always brighter on the weekend.

2005-08-18T11:38:00.000-07:00

Throughout my life, I’ve always noticed that the weekend was different (in nature) from the weekday. Even before I had a job and spent most of my day sitting inside of a cubicle, I could tell that things were just different on Saturday and Sunday.

For example, I know that all of you taken the day off from work at some point. Didn’t it seem kind of normal to you even though you didn’t have to go into the office? Nothing really amazed you. The trees looked the same. So did the grass. You may have noticed a bird or squirrel but nothing out of the norm. Okay, now think about the weekend. When you wake up, doesn’t it seem like the sun is shining brighter? It’s still 7:00 AM like every day when you awake, but for some reason it’s just brighter. Then, there’s that feeling of peace running through your veins and in the air of your home. You can just lie there for hours doing nothing and be absolutely content.

My point is this. Enjoy your weekend, by first bathing in the presence of God. The peace of a still weekend morning reveals the brighter shining of the sun, the clearer chirps of the birds and the louder blowing of the wind. You are witnessing God’s presence throughout the earth.

Your assignment this weekend is to turn on some soft music, and simply stare out the window. What do your eyes see? What picture does your mind paint? What do your ears hear? What does your heart feel in its inner most part? I hope that you will feel God’s amazing presence overwhelm you as you worship him.

As a matter of fact, sleep with your blinds open (if you feel comfortable) and let the sun wake you up instead of your alarm clock. It is a beautiful way to start your day. I started doing this when I lived in Atlanta and my apartment was surrounded by trees. Today, I still look forward to Saturday morning. Not that I get up right away, but I roll over and stare out the window just looking and creation. Last week, I saw the cutest little red bird. He was just chirping away like he was so happy. I would have never noticed that bird during the week because I am too busy being preoccupied with life. It is during this time, I have found closeness with God that I cannot explain. It feels like He is standing right over me breathing and comforting my soul.

He is perfect, excellent and beautiful! Heaven must be beyond description. No wonder John fell to his face and began to worship when he saw Jesus in Revelation. No wonder Moses came down from the mountain with a face glowing of radiance. No wonder David said that his one desire was to “dwell in the house of the Lord forever, to behold the beauty of the Lord and to inquire in his temple.” These great men caught a glimpse of God’s beauty and splendor and had no choice but to worship Him.

Sometimes we think that worship is limited to the church building or falling on our knees at home. If he desires for us to worship him in spirit and truth, then sometimes we can just gaze at his creation uninterrupted and immediately be transported into his presence.
My friend, I hope this is your one desire today. Out of all the goals we set for ourselves, let this be our greatest: That one day we will see the Lord face to face and worship Him in the presence of the angels. In the meantime, let us make every effort to worship Him in all that we do.

Kidd Grown

"P . Diddy," I mean Diddy" must be stopped!

2005-08-17T18:51:00.000-07:00

Can somebody please tell Sean Combs a.k.a. Puff Daddy/Puffy/P. Diddy/and now Diddy to get somewhere and sit down. Who cares if he wants to change his name. And why was that on the Today show? Aren't there plenty of other newsworthy events to cover. Now, Puffy is a strong black man who is extremely brilliant in my opinion, but this is just madness. I guess he had to go and do something to prove his popularity. He has been quiet lately. No more "Loose Control" for you buddy.

What is this country coming to? And what is it really coming to for black folks? The only time we get to be on the news is when some crime has occurred or some crazy musical artist does something outrageous. Hasn't Oprah been working on a project in Africa all year? Can't they cover that?

What is really going. I'm just trying to understand.

Kidd Grown

Part 1: If one more person asks me why I'm still single...

2005-08-16T22:19:00.000-07:00

I'm going to ________________. (Fill in the blank if you are feeling me. I'd love to hear more.)

You know. I do not even have words for this anymore. Other than, "Don't ask me that stupid question again." Can I just be real for a moment? For some strange reason this seems my BIG secret, and I am not willing to tell anybody. (Twilight Zone music fades in.)

From family to friends to complete strangers, why do people ask me this question as if this is an equation where we have to find the missing variable, X. I've got news for you: This ain't algebra class. There is no reason. Simply put, "It is not my time, and I am 100% cool with God's plan." (Note: I am human and do have my moments.)

Sometimes people treat me like I'm a social reject or something, and I'm getting pretty sick of it. So, I am standing up for all the singles out there who share my pain. Do people seriously believe that this is a huge problem that I must resolve in order to be happy and have a complete life? News flash: This is not a problem for me. Now, I've got some problems don't get me wrong, but this really ain't one of them. This is a problem: How I'm going to pay for my tuition bill this last semester for b-school. And this is a problem: How am I going to discipline myself to finish this business plan.

Want to hear some funny solutions that have been posed to me? I have too much personality. (What the heck does "too much" mean? Hmm, I can't seem to find that phrase defined anywhere in my HANDY DANDY SINGLE DICTIONARY!) This one is the killer: You're just too educated, independent and career-driven. (Excuse me, but what is the scriptural reference stating that I am REQUIRED to be poor, uneducated and co-dependent? I can't seem to find it in my GREAT BIG SINGLE BIBLE!) It is amazing what people will tell you even though I know 99% of them mean well. As if I don't have a single redeeming quality about me.

Honestly, this really gets on my nerves. I am not looking for an apology or a pep talk here either. I'm just expressing myself. I know that we all have something to change and work on, but that's life, right?

World according to the Kidd - A problem is something or situation that appears to have no solution, but one actually exists. You can by some means solve it vis-a-vie acquiring more resources, getting someone to help, improving your skills, increasing your knowledge and so forth. Now, can I do any of those things to solve this perceived problem of my singlehood? I think not. Been there, done that, and got a t-shirt.

Hope I didn't get too crunk there. Think of it more as a healthy frustration sprinkled with a pinch of sarcasm.

I have been studying a lot about this topic for the past 3 years or so and have much to say about it. So I've decided to chop it up a little. But before I get to Part II, I'm interested in the thoughts of those of you in e-land. I am getting sleepy now. You know us single folks have to work.

On the positive closing note: What a lovely day it has been for me! "God is light, and in him, there is no darkness at all." Isn't that beautiful? (1 John 1:5) He is my best friend. I hope that He is yours.

Good night,

Kidd Grown
1 Corinthians: Chapter 7

First day of school

2005-08-16T07:23:00.000-07:00

Okay,

I was not the only one over-reacting. These parents had video cameras, digital cameras...some people had the whole family there. I didn't realize how special this moment was for the parent. This is monumental! The kids all had the same look on their faces ("mom..PLEASE!!"). My niece even tried to get a little attitude with me when we got closer to her room, as if I wasn't so cool anymore. She got a little frustrated because I kept taking pictures of her. I HAD TO TAKE HER MOMMA SOMETHING!!! My sister would kill me if I didn't get pictures of her baby on the first day. I'll add some pictures later today when I figure out how to work this camera.

My nephew basically told me to get lost in so many words. He didn't want me to walk him to his classroom. I guess that's cool since he is in the 4th grade. They all looked so cute. My other nephew was supposed to ride his bike, but his mom changed her mind so I had to take him too. He forgot his schedule and locker code, so I had to get out and go to the office with him. That was fun. He had Competitive Athletics first. I remember those days. All the future athletes sit in the gym to get assigned those ugly uniforms. He's in middle school and will be playing football. He's a tight end, and the boy can hit!

Overall, this was a very positive and emotional experience for me. I woke up and prayed for them and for all the kids going to school. I found myself praying for the entire educational system. I didn't cry, though I wanted too. I just felt different. You know? Like, I wanted to keep watching them to make sure they were okay. I look forward to motherhood, but I can see already that I have some tendencies that I need to check right now. #1) Stay out of the teacher's business. #2) Don't try to run the PTA and booster club. #3) You do not have any coaching experience so be quiet. I hope I'm not bossy; I just like to know what's going on.

Kidd Grown

Thank God for Saturday!

2005-08-13T20:24:00.000-07:00

Today was awesome! I was so productive. I am so glad that I don't have class on Saturday anymore. I practiced my domestication skills and cooked. Yes, I cooked. I made sweet and sour chicken. It was actually pretty good. I was supposed to go to Austin to attend a friend's graduation party. She's the bomb. She's a single mom who has a house and just got her masters degree. I'm very proud of her. I did put a card in the mail though. I'm trying to do better with remembering important dates and events, keeping in touch, etc. These are very important attributes that I am not naturally blessed with, but are crucial to a successful life.

Anyway, I am so excited about the greatest honor I've ever had. My big sister asked me last week if I could take my niece and nephew to school on their first day, which is Tuesday. I am so nervous and crunk at the same time. I mean, they'll remember this day for the rest of their lives. (Well, maybe I'm exaggerating a bit.) My niece is going to the first grade, so this is really special right??? I know their mom is sad that she can't take them, but she's a teacher and has to be at work at 6AM. Their dad has to work too. So, Kidd Grown to the rescue! I'm spending the night at their house on Monday night. I was thinking about writing them a cute little encouraging letter to put in their lunches. Am I over-reacting? I'm definitely taking pictures though.

I went and bought a digital camera. I found a good deal at Wal-Mart of course. I also checked out Frye's, which is a really cool store by the way. They have everything, and it is so neat and well laid out unlike those cluttered mailings they send out. Who's doing their marketing anyway? I went in there for a camera and came out with a USB stick and an Israel CD. Go figure.

I'm just sitting here watching the movie "Life" with Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence. I forgot how funny this movie is. "You gon' eat yo' cornbread?" That was a trip. Bernie Mac killed me..."I da pappy!" Okay, I know I need to be getting in the bed so that I can go to worship service in the morning. Tomorrow, I'll have something more interesting to share. Yes, I have to tell you about my neighbor.

God bless you whoever and wherever you are. Remember, "He is with you always even until the end!"

Night,

Kidd Grown

1 John 3:1-4

Four Brothers Subtitle: A Hot Mess

2005-08-12T21:58:00.000-07:00

Okay, I got to the theater at 7:30, and the next movie didn't start until 9:30. I didn't sweat it because I got $2 off with my student ID. So I decided to drive back home and engage in my favorite pastime, eating. I went back to the theater and found my seat. (BTW, the previews for this fall aren't looking too good.)

The movie was a hot mess. Let me just put that out there. However, it could've and should've ended after an hour and a half. There was absolutely no need for 2 hours. In short, a lot of violence and cursing. I'm still not sure if I understood the plot. If Mark Wahlberg and Tyrese weren't so cute, I would've left after the first 30 minutes, seriously. Andre did a good job though. I have to give a shout out to my boy! (like I know him)

Since this is a positive site, I had to find some good in this situation. The best things about my movie night: a great old school soundtrack, Tyrese and Tyrese.

The worst things about my movie night: (1) The ghetto couple who arrived at the movie 30 minutes late and conveniently selected my row. Talking about, “Say, anybody in them seats?” I started to say, “Yes” especially after the girlfriend stepped on my big toe. (2) The parents (who apparently missed a couple of parenting classes) and had their small children in an R Rated film! Hello. (3) The boyfriend from the ghetto couple in (1) whose phone rang twice (not once, but twice) during the movie, and he had the nerve to answer it and hold a 3 minute conversation.

Dang Gina! I'm just trying to understand. Did anyone have a better experience with this movie they'd like to share?

Oh Miss Sophia now,

Kidd Grown

My Family. Mi Familia.

2005-08-12T10:30:00.000-07:00

LEFT: Here's me and my three sisters. I'm the cutie in the pink dress. Can you believe I lost 25 pounds in like 3 months??!!! Someone told me that God was preparing me for my man. Hey!!! What's up Boaz? Where you at?

But, I digress. My baby sis, Angela (Angie), is the tall one on the left. Shylika, the one to my immediate right, is the sis born right after me. LaTonya (Tonya) is the one on the far right, and she's the oldest. They are all happily married. Angie and Shylika live right outside of Atlanta, and Tonya recently moved to Dallas from Atlanta.

TOP RIGHT: That's my momma and her girls. She broke her ankle this summer that's why she's in the wheel chair. Long but funny story. :-) This pictures are from my 30th birthday bash weekend. Mental Note: Never throw a party again!!!

I probably should be working right now, but I've made a committment to only update the site during my lunch hour or before/after work. A sista has to be ethical and stuff. I'm buying a digital camera this weekend so I won't bore you away with old stuff. Stay tuned for tonight's commentary of the movie "Four Brothers".

Keep your head up diva or divo,

Kidd Grown

p.s. I'm also a perfectionist. The fact that these two images aren't wrapping correctly is driving me nuts. Pray for me.

Remember...I'm Mike Jones, baby!

2005-08-11T16:37:00.000-07:00

Okay, is it me or did Mike Jones come out of nowhere??!!! You gotta love this guy.

Here we are talking about a short, dark stocky and grilled out fella from the hood who has more confidence than Oprah Winfrey. Seriously! I ain't mad at him. I'm not a huge fan of today's hip-hop, but I think something has to be said about Mike Jones and his style. And why do we call him by his entire name anyway::!! I actually listened to the song and was thinking about how philosophical it really is.

Check this:

We, human being,s are so selfish and self-centered sometimes that we act like we are TOO good for people unless they have something that we aspire to attain or see some personal benefit from associating with a particular person or group. Think back to when you were a kid. You always wanted to be like the coolest girl or the coolest guy. You wanted to be in their crew. Why, because it was safe. It helped you to escape your own pitiful world (or at least you thought it was), or it all of the negative attention and bullying off you. When the real truth is, the people in the crew were really the ones living in a pitiful world and used their social power to humiliate others while trying to over-compensate from a clear lack of positive self-esteem and love for others. As adults, I still see this happening in ministry, work, politics...you name it. It finally took an underground rap artist from Houston, Texas to expose this unfortunate act.

So, Mike Jones...Do yo' thing my brotha. If these girls (the same ones that dissed you before) are all on you now, you have every right to write a song about it. Maybe you will liberate the minds of young people and grown ups about how to treat all people -- when they're up and when they're down -- with dignity, respect and in the same manner in which you would want to be treated yourself. To all my nerds, outcasts, social rejects, impoverished and just overlooked people -- remember..."Everybody has a little light under the sun, under the sun, under the sun."

The next time you need that bit of confidence to boost you over. MIKE JONES! The next time somebody looks at you like you're an idiot. MIKE JONES! The next time you're rejected by someone you have a crush on. MIKE JONES! The next time your boss questions your ability to get the job done. MIKE JONES! You need to look at that person and say, "I thought you knew!" (Pop your collar and scream) "I'm Mike Jones, Baby!"

Peace up,
Kidd Grown

p.s. comments???

Today is the first day of the rest of my life...

2005-08-11T12:44:00.000-07:00

Wow! I cannot believe it. I actually finished something that I started. I have a blog site, which I've been saying that I was going to do for the longest. I can't wait to get home and fill out my profile.

Keep your eyes open because this site is about to blow up. For those of you who are not priviliged to understand "hood" talk, that means to "take off or to escalate at a rapid pace."

Peace up! Haters down.

The Kidd has spoken.

cupofsaki

Gold Stars

Check this out...

Fat Greedy..May he rest in peace

In case you missed it...

I miss Whitney...

Gas prices...

I love Superman!

Finally…I Got a Lunch Box

Misquote-correction

Way to fight back!

I'm Gonna Knock You Out!

Me and My Ways...

Who in the heck wears perfume to go jogging??

"What it do, baby?"

Voices

Just catching up...

Funny! Thanks Educators. Parents get on your job.

20/20 special

A Little Controversy

Tis the season for Jacked Up Christmas Lights

Magnum P.I.

Bring Back Whitney

Stuff that shocked me today

Oprah is the Bomb!

I'm Just Sayin'.

Kidd Grown vs. Fat Greedy: Round 1

Meet Fat Greedy

A Wedding Just ain't a wedding without the...

The Kidd's Out of Style List

Blogging from class

Terrell Owens Needs a Whippin'

Not mine, but it's good

Is your mailman ghetto? Mine is.

I'm a believer

Janet Jackson having a daughter isn't true...

Craig's List

Bye Bye to Howard Stern

What is really going on???!!!!

Texas Longhorns

NBA Thugs or Businessmen?

Salute to Rosa Parks

Ummmm...why does Madonna have a British Accent

JUST DON'T QUIT

Bored and can't sleep

The Gospel...Now I Ain't Sayin' it was Bad, but...

Guess who had the nerve to just pass me in the hallway....

News for women entrepreneurs in Dallas

That Darn Cat!

Complaint about America's Next Top Model

How to Ask a Man Out Without Asking a Man Out

Why does John Madden talk so much?

JPMorgan Gives Katrina Grants

My Response back to their Response

Katrina: Demand a Change Follow up

O, Backbone Where art Thou?

What Katrina taught me this past week…

Mayor of New Orleans Speaks

Mayor of New Orleans Speaks

Katrina: Demand a Change

If One more person ***SCRATCH*** What in the world is up with gay black men?

Kidd Grown’s Top 10 List of Black People who are Trapped in a White Person’s Body

My favorite Momma Story. Share Yours.

President Bush: does the blood cover him?

Momma Don't Play

Should you laugh when people trip or fall? I just did.

Mark Cuban is off the Chain!

How to Approach a Female at Church 101

Part II: If one more person asks me why I’m still single.

Don't Be Scared: The Spirit of Fear

2008 Presidential Election: Oprah vs. Hillary

Can secular artists be gospel artists too? The Kanye E-Debate

Do Not Call List

The sun is always brighter on the weekend.

"P . Diddy," I mean Diddy" must be stopped!

Part 1: If one more person asks me why I'm still single...

First day of school

Thank God for Saturday!

Four Brothers Subtitle: A Hot Mess

My Family. Mi Familia.

If One more person SCRATCH What in the world is up with gay black men?